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Actress Chhavi Mittal's Traumatic Delivery Is a Wake-up Call for All Moms-to-be!
Dealing with the changes that pregnancy brings about and taking care of a child is not an easy job, but mothers do justice to the task with all their heart - and without complaint. They cocoon their babies in their wombs for nine months, so it most certainly gives them the right to plan every aspect of the birth - the process of the delivery, the hospital they will give birth in, the doctors they want to consult, everything! So, how would it feel when you plan everything, but there comes a moment when everything goes for a toss? Having little to no idea of medical terms and processes, we trust our doctors implicitly believing that they won’t let any harm come our way. But not all doctors live up to our trust.
Actress Chhavi Mittal, who gave birth to a baby boy on May 13th, shared the traumatic experience of her labour and delivery through her Instagram posts, and we are in shock! Chhavi had wanted to practice hypnobirthing while delivering her second child. Hypnobirthing is a method of pain management used during labour and delivery, which helps a woman prepare for childbirth through relaxation techniques such as visualisation and deep breathing. Chhavi was so focused on this idea that she had shared the birth plan with her doctor, the nursing staff, the head of the hospital and with other people who were even remotely involved in her birthing process. As per the plan, Chhavi had also wanted her husband Mohit Hussein to be by her side at all times. She had also shared in the plan that her baby should be given to her after the birth and that the doctors should delay the cord clamping up until the placenta stopped pulsating. You can read the excerpts of her birthing plan here -
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Chhavi’s requests were not outrageous; a comfortable and safe delivery process is what all pregnant women deserve and of course, they trust their doctors to respect their wishes. But in Chhavi and Mohit’s case, the exact opposite happened. While they were assured that their requests would be honoured, they most certainly were not. When Chhavi was in labour, she was administered a drug to hasten dilation. With the introduction of a drug in her system, her dream of having a hypnobirth quickly slipped away. She had been practising hypnobirthing techniques for months, but her doctor was never on board with her plan, which Chhavi realised only later when she was in the OT.
She was rushed to the operation theatre for a C-section delivery (despite being in labour for 7 hours or so and having been 8 centimetres dilated), but her husband was not allowed to enter the OT; not at first. This clearly violated a point of her birth plan, where she had mentioned she wanted her husband to be with her at all times. However, after she threatened to walk out of the hospital unless he was allowed into the OT, the doctor allowed Mohit to stay by her side. But the ordeal did not end just yet.
In the operation theatre, the doctor said certain things to her which a pregnant woman would never want to hear, especially not at a time when she is in unimaginable pain. Chhavi could not understand how a woman whom she had believed in for nine months, never actually cared about her idea of birthing. Here is what the doctor told Chhavi while she was in the OT.
“Your labour is not strong enough, your body is not meant to do this, if you felt pain, you would be screaming, not sleeping.”
She then went on to say, “Don’t worry, I’m famous for giving really small incisions. You won't have a big scar!"
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Chhavi couldn’t believe that the doctor thought that her main worry was about having a scar. After the baby’s birth, the umbilical cord was clamped all too quickly. The little one was taken out but was not given to his mother even after she had repeatedly asked for him. To her horror, the doctor also said, “Dekha, pain-free delivery.” Chhavi was even administered a sleeping injection thereafter without her permission. The doctor not only disagreed with Chhavi’s birth plan but managed to make a complete mockery of the whole situation!
But it’s Chhavi who is now living with the consequences of her doctor’s decisions. Post delivery, she struggled to establish a good latch with her newborn. She also faced a loss of hearing in one ear due to the spinal tap procedure. However, she is now on the road to recovery and at home, comfortable and surrounded by the people she loves.
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This was Chhavi’s experience, but many women have a similar story. We put a lot of trust in our doctors and caregivers with the hope that they will honour our requests and make our birthing experience a memorable one for us. But not all doctors respect or care for a pregnant woman’s choices. A woman who carries a baby in her womb for nine months should be treated with love and care - it’s the least she expects and deserves. And she has every right to express her discontentment - be it with doctors or anyone.
Through her birthing story, Chhavi has also raised many important questions which need to be pondered upon.
1. Why is a woman given a drug without her consent?
2. Why did her doctor suggest a C-section delivery all of a sudden when everything was normal?
3. Why didn’t her doctor, who was a lady and perhaps, someone’s wife or mother, respect her wishes?
This is the story of a lot of women in India, going by the comments on Chhavi’s post.
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To all the moms-to-be out there, you deserve good things. Find a gynaecologist whom you can trust. Share your concerns with her. If you have a birthing plan, share that too. Take her opinions on the same and ask about possible complications. If you and your doctor are not on the same page, there will be reasons for the same. Express your concerns and take her advice but find a middle ground. Also, before settling for one, consult two or more doctors. Go with the one whom you can trust, who respects your wishes wholeheartedly, and who can reassure you when you lose your calm.
What happened to Chhavi is harrowing and disturbing and should never happen to any woman again. The wishes of a woman bringing a new life into the world should be respected, and she should be treated with dignity. Doctors should also attend to a pregnant woman with respect and address her concerns without losing their cool. People believe in doctors and are willing to do whatever their doctors suggest, hoping that it would be in their best interests. Hence, it is a doctor’s responsibility to be honest with their patients. A few kind and reassuring words won’t hurt either.
As for Chhavi, we wish her a speedy recovery and a happy and healthy life with her family. Read more
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Helping Preschoolers Build Positive Self Concept
Promoting a positive self-concept in children is very important for their development. If children are taught how to respect themselves from the ripe age of 37-42 months, they will gain a much stronger and positive personality, along with being confident.
Self-concept can be thought of as the view one has of themselves and their abilities. When a child is 37-42 months of age, his self-concept begins to develop dramatically. Children who grow up with a negative self-concept often have a ‘can't do’ attitude. They easily become frustrated and give up on difficult tasks very quickly. Hence, building kids’ self-concept should be a priority for all parents and caregivers.
Understanding Self-Image in Children
Between 37-42 months, a child begins to notice how you respond to him. In this stage, parents and caregivers should be encouraged to create a positive emotional bond with the child by having warm and caring interactions. You can achieve it with a lot of eye contact and through tender touch. It’s the love, acceptance, and respect of adults around that promotes positive self-concept in children.
Ways to Build Self-Esteem in A Child
Parents must provide their kids with various opportunities for success. Age-appropriate tasks, which they’re capable of completing on their own, can be assigned to them.
Try not to call them negative names. For example, don’t call them ‘lazy’ or ‘naughty’ as it promotes a bad image.
Positive self-concept can also be achieved by showing faith in kids’ abilities. Show them that you trust them and they will definitely become more confident.
You can give them the opportunity to explore their environment, and become more curious. Curiosity can pave the way for smartness and makes them more confident.
Encourage them to ask questions. Good questions lead to good answers and also help in building a positive self-concept.
Don’t make a habit of pointing out their mistakes. If you keep nagging them, it will only make them irritable and frustrated. Remember that you’re trying to develop a positive self-image and it can't be achieved with anything negative.
Plan make-believe play activities that edge them towards being more productive and feeling more useful.
Self-Concept Activities for Preschoolers
There are a number of activities that can be done on a daily basis. You can make it a habit to say encouraging words like ‘You can do it' and ‘I believe in you’. You can play the game of trust, where preschoolers have to fall blindfolded on a group of other kids. You can take random tests about a story you told them a week ago, or about their favourite cartoon. And of course, you can engage them a little more by giving out small incentives every time they achieve something. Development of self-concept in early childhood acts like a foundation for positive emotional and mental growth. When a child is made to walk on the path of positive self-concept, he sees himself as being respected and valued. He has a much higher chance of reaching his full potential and can do better in school. He’ll also be able to make better decisions as an adult and become a well-rounded human being. Read more
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Winter Diarrhoea - A Common Problem during Winter and our Experience
Its January and winter is at its peak. Winters are the most difficult time for babies. Baby care during winters is challenging. It's the time when your baby may catch infections or may just suffer due to temperature extremities. Winter diarrhoea is one common problem babies may face during winters.
Our Experience
A few days ago, we went out early morning with our five-month-old. We came back 5 hours later and the baby started passing greenish loose stools. First, she did it three times. The frequency increased to 10-12 times from next day. The baby was otherwise fine and well fed. We consulted our paediatrician and he diagnosed it to be winter diarrhoea. He suggested a probiotic for 5 days, a zinc solution for 14 days and ORS. He further suggested keeping the baby hydrated. It took her 10 days to get well.
Is It Serious?
Winter diarrhoea is not a life-threatening condition but still very uncomfortable for babies. So, the following conditions should not be ignored:
If the baby is not active enough
If the baby is not passing urine (at least 6 times a day)
If the stool is too smelly or has blood in it
If the baby is not taking feed properly
If you observe any of the above symptoms, do consult your paediatrician as soon as possible.
What We Learnt from the Experience
The most important thing in winters is to keep your baby hydrated.
Keep your baby warm enough and cover their palms with gloves or mittens while going outside, as babies take their fingers in their mouth which can cause infection.
Allow your baby to rest well.
Postpone any scheduled vaccination when your baby is not well.
Do not ignore any symptom which is not normal for your baby as every baby is different.
Happy winters
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Parenting in Times of Corona Pandemic - Understanding, Empathy, Innovation and Motivation.
Coronavirus Pandemic is impacting our lives as never before. People have to maintain a social distance. There is also the case of lockdown. Children are not able to go to schools and they are stuck at home with no friends around and they cannot go out to play or have fun.
During this time, children are scared and confused. They are anxious and curious at the same time. The way Coronavirus is spreading, it is making the children fearful and restless.
Parenting Tips:
A) To make the children understand the complexities of this situation. We should make our children understand in an age appropriate way. There is no need to give overload of information about this situation but it is necessary to state the facts. Encourage them to share their feelings with you. Do not forget to comfort and reassure them.
B) Empower your children by stating safety measures and precautions such as washing of hands for 20 seconds before meals,after coughing and sneezing and after using the washrooms, wearing of masks, maintaining social distance and staying at home.
C) Make a schedule and follow it. A daily routine keeps the children focused as the children function better in a structured and organised environment. Create a routine for structured activities, free time as well as family time. Take your child's help to create this timetable. Take out some time for exercise too as physical activity helps in reducing stress and also helps to channel energy.
D) As a parent you have to juggle between different roles: You have to take the role of a teacher, an advisor, a guide, a counselor, a friend and a parent. You have to focus on house work as well as office work. Try playing with your kids. Talk to your kids about how well they spent their day. Encourage them to behave properly and reward them for their good behaviour. This will boost your child's self esteem. Parents should take time out for themselves by having a good sleep, eating healthy, exercising daily and enjoying some "me time". Take help whenever necessary.
E) Role of parents in Online Education: The parents should be acquainted with the schools's online resources. Parents should ensure that the children are effectively engaged in educational activities. It is the perfect time for the children to develop their reading and writing habits. They can write their own articles or blogs. They can start working on some research activity or work on some projects of their choice. Parents and children should work towards establishing a learning portfolio that the child is passionate about.
F) Monitor screen time: Keep track of your children's screen time. This helps us to know the amount of time they are spending in front of screens and ask your children to manage and set goals for the screen use. Model healthy screen use by letting them write stories, articles and blogs, reading online books and study materials, participating in online competitions, watching videos related to studies etc.
Be kind and forgiving to yourself. Show love and affection for your child. Provide reassurance that we as a family together will soon get out of this. Keep your child safe and cared for. Read more
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12 hours ago
Q. ninth month mein kab tak delivery ho sakti hai
Dr Ghouse
Paediatrician
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A. anytime after full term ok. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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Q. my last period date Dec 26 pregnancy test date January 31 check panen apom 37 days ipom enaku evlo weeks and days what ?..
Rashmi
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A. I don’t understand your language can you please post your question once again in English or Hindi whatever language you are more comfortable with because anybody on this only we can give you response on that
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Q. which good formula milk or baby food for 4 months old baby
Dr Ghouse
Paediatrician
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A. no complementary foods below 4 months can use any branded formula milk. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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Q. Iam 9month pregnant and having very painful condition due to constipation and gastric issues
Dr Ghouse
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A. during pregnancy better not to take medicines for constipation take lot of water green leafy vegetables seasonal fruits you can try suppository if the problem is more o k o k
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Q. hi Doc,
eating raw mango, chapathi or any heat producing foods cause miscarriage during first trimester?
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A. no relation ok c. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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I'm getting cramps on my right side of lower stomach. is this normal or do I have to visit doc?
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A. without examination it is difficult to tell proper treatment as well as advice so you should visit the doctor5 for health assessment as well as examination.
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