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7 Problems Many of Us Face with Our Sisters-in-Law and How to Solve Them!
When we get married and become part of a whole new family, we have nothing but the best of intentions in our hearts. We want to embrace the new culture and accept everyone as our family members. However, not all of us are lucky enough to get this feeling of acceptance and love reciprocated by our in-laws.
Your sister-in-law should be a friend and confidante, right? She is a fellow woman, whether married or single, and has probably faced similar life situations as you have. Why is it then that so many of us end up facing problems with her? Ego struggles, evil gossip, comparisons, and blame games!
We asked fellow moms about the most irritating problems they are facing/have faced with their sisters-in-law.
Dealing With Difficult Sisters-In-Law
Sisters-in-law come in varying proportions of sugar, spice, and everything nice! But there are a few types that are universal, which we can all identify with. There are certain problems you’re sure to have faced with each kind; here are the most common ones, and what you can do to avoid conflicts and maintain peace!
”You won't believe what Bhabhi said!” - The Tattletale
This sister-in-law doesn’t let go of an opportunity to complain or spread gossip about you! “I asked Bhabhi to give me her new earrings for a party. But she refused.” “Bhabhi made a face when my friend came home the other day.” Bhabhi this, Bhabhi that! Some sisters-in-law just love complaining about you. Everything you do is found fault with and then gets transferred to the ears of your in-laws or even your husband. What’s worse, she cannot keep any secrets either; so, something you may have confided in her about comes out embarrassingly at the next family gathering!
Solution: So, what do you do when your sister-in-law hates you? If your sister-in-law is the gossiping type who loves telling tales, it is best to not trust her with secrets. Try and keep your interactions on personal matters as limited as possible. This applies to social media as well; best not to comment on her pictures if she keeps misconstruing them as interference! It can be the best solution you have to ensure peace at home.
”That's not how he likes his rice cooked!”- The Annoying One
Some sisters-in-law have annoying habits that never fail to exasperate you! Claiming that she knows her brother’s interests more than you do. Visiting at odd hours without calling first. Barging into your room without knocking because “she doesn’t need permission to meet her brother”. Some of our sisters-in-law have really annoying habits that irritate and tire us out. But we cannot complain because she is part of the in-laws and criticising her would be seen as a sign of our bad behavior!
Solution: As long as the habits are manageable, try and laugh them off, or, if she is younger than you, talk to her about them teasingly. But if the habits are making your life difficult, tell her so in plain words. You don’t have to put up with it perpetually.
”That’s not how you should do it!” - The Controlling One
The controlling sister-in-law can be the most tiresome, as they expect you to abide by their rules and regulations, and can try to curb your independence. She may interfere in your decisions, offer advice, and expect them to be followed to a T. One problem that you may have come across in your experience is that she comes over to meet her parents anytime, but you aren’t allowed to do so! It is a sweet and natural thing to do; of course, all of us miss our parents. But when we want to go to our home and visit our parents, we need to DISCUSS with her and the in-laws! We often need to give them a reason and get their ‘permission’ before we can go, even if our parents live in the same city. Isn’t this hypocritical?
Solution: The best thing is to have a heart-to-heart with your in-laws about it. Explain to them that you have a responsibility toward your parents just as you have a responsibility toward your in-laws. They need to trust you to divide your time well and ensure that your duties are not compromised on. With time, let’s hope they will understand.
“When are you going to have a baby? Are you at least trying?” - The Meddlesome One
Always poking her nose about in your business, this SIL needs to know everything that’s going on in your life! “What did Bhaiya give you on your anniversary?” “What did you do the entire day?” The questions can be simple, funny, or just plain irritating! What business is it of hers or anybody else? The details of your married life and personal life are yours alone. It is up to you whether or not you want to share them with anyone. But not answering these questions poses the risk that she may take offense or even complain to her parents. Result: You will be up for catcalls and criticism at family functions and at the dinner table!
Solution: How to get along with sister-in-law like this? Well, a polite smile and a shake of the head are enough of an answer for times when you do not want to answer. Do it a few times and your SIL should get the message that you don’t want to share a particular detail with her (hopefully!). Or just pretend to be bashful, shy, or busy; she will get the hint eventually to not intrude into your privacy.
”When I got married, I'd never once slept past 5.30 am!” - The Judge
Whether it is about your cooking skills or how soon you finish the household tasks, the sister-in-law often “does it better”. Sometimes, it can be your parents-in-law who make this comparison to your face, which feels hurtful. But sometimes, the SIL herself tends to make comparisons about “how she would have prepared that dish” or how “her living room is always spotless”. While aiming to do better is healthy, getting competitive about everything is not at all healthy!
Solution: Getting along with a sister-in-law like this can be tough. Just try and take the comparisons in your stride as long as they are meant as constructive feedback and not blatant criticism. If it starts bothering you or is totally unfair, talk to your in-laws and your spouse about it. Tell them that you and your SIL have different strengths and weaknesses. Constant comparisons serve no purpose but to make you feel small.
”Sorry...the four of us made plans ages ago to go shopping; maybe you can join us some other time?” - The Avoider
As the daughter-in-law, you consult your in-laws with every major decision. You take part in all activities in the household. But you still get vibes from your SIL which make you feel like several matters in the family are “off limits” to you. She keeps you out of major discussions and excludes you from important occasions.
Solution: This is one of the most heart-breaking problems we can face. After trying so hard to accept the new household and family, if the SIL makes us feel we will always be “an outsider”, it can be very damaging to our emotional health. How to deal with sister-in-law issues like this? Please talk to your spouse about the situation and discuss your emotions openly, without making it seem as if you are blaming his parents and sister. It is his duty too to help you be accepted as an intrinsic part of his family.
”My brother was never like this until you came along!” - The Green-Eyed Monster
If she goes out of her way to be rude and mean to you in most situations, you might be dealing with a jealous sister-in-law. This behaviour may vary, though; you might see her make cutting remarks to your face, but tone it down in front of others. She may exhibit happiness at a personal failure you face, without offering any solace or rather, bragging about how she’s never failed at the same thing! Jealousy could crop up as you are now sharing the spotlight that used to shine on her alone, or because she feels that her bond with her family may seem less significant, now that you’re here to ‘take her place’. The resultant tension caused can thus lead to a bad relationship with your sister-in-law.
Solution: The best way to deal with this problem is to be the bigger person. Smile at her, be cheerful and civil, and kill it with kindness. Negative reactions from your end can worsen the situation by unnecessarily bringing other family members into the problem. By expressing any sort of frustration or anger, you will be giving her the reaction that she wants; instead, your unexplained kindness can confuse her. Once she sees that her attempts to bring you down are futile, she will be forced to give up!
Watch: How to Deal With a Jealous Sister-in-Law
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Phew, we really have a handful when dealing with difficult in-laws after marriage! And then again, some of us are lucky to have sisters-in-law who become our best friends, shopping buddies, late-night phone conversation partners, and people we can trust completely! If you are one of these lucky women, congratulations! But if sister-in-law problems have become a constant pressure point for you, try out the above solutions and see if the situation improves. Confide in your husband and talk to him about how this is stressing you out, without being accusatory. When you have his support by your side, everything will become easier to deal with. Read more
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Pregnancy After a Vasectomy – Is it Possible?
A vasectomy is one of the most effective ways to prevent a pregnancy; it is basically a permanent birth control solution for men. It is reported that post the male partner having a vasectomy, a couple has a less than 1% chance of getting pregnant - but are there any loopholes at all, by which the couple can conceive a child? Find out!
What Is a Vasectomy?
A vasectomy is a surgical intervention that involves tying off the reproductive tubes of a man. In other words, the vas deferens are tied off and severed, thus hampering the sperm from reaching the egg. This is not a temporary form of birth control but a permanent one.
The recovery period in the case of a vasectomy is quite short - most men can resume routine activities in just 2 or 3 days, and physical activity in 3 to 7 days.
What Are the Chances of Getting Pregnant After Having a Vasectomy?
As discussed above, a vasectomy is a permanent method of birth control and is considered to be one of the best ways to avoid an unwanted pregnancy. However, just the way all other birth control methods do not have a 100 per cent success rate, having a vasectomy doesn't guarantee that a couple cannot become pregnant. This means there may be a possibility of the woman getting pregnant even if the husband has undergone a vasectomy. Here’s the good news though - the chances of getting pregnant after a vasectomy are extremely less. It is observed that in the first year after surgery, the chances of pregnancy maybe 1 in 1000 and this may increase from 2 to 10 in the next five years after the surgery.
How Can a Couple Get Pregnant After a Partner Has Had a Vasectomy?
There are no surefire ways to make a man or a woman sterile; therefore, it is possible that a woman may get pregnant after her partner has had a vasectomy. Here are a few ways how this can happen.
1. Having sexual intercourse before the man’s sperm count is confirmed to be zero
Even if a man has had a vasectomy, the sperms may still be present in the semen for up to 2 to 3 months. If a couple has unprotected sex during this time, they may face the possibility of becoming pregnant. Therefore, in the case where pregnancy needs to be avoided, the doctor may recommend the man to undergo sperm analysis to confirm the sperm count to be zero, before he can have unprotected sex with his partner.
2. Vasectomy reversal
If a couple wishes to conceive after the male partner has had a vasectomy, he can go for reversal surgery. The surgical procedure is performed under anaesthesia, and the vas deferens is reconnected. The vasectomy reversal surgery may bring back the sperm into the semen.
3. Recanalisation (natural reversal)
Sometimes, natural reversal or recanalisation may occur, when the sperms are able to escape from the microscopic channels that may be present at the cut end of the vas deferens. These channels may form due to some medical complications such as sperm granuloma and other such conditions. Usually, the doctor will be able to establish this problem while doing the post-semen analysis after the vasectomy, and it may only be present in less than one per cent of the cases. However, in rare cases, which are 1 in 4000, late recanalisation may occur too.
4. Surgical errors
Sometimes, a vasectomy may fail due to surgical errors. In case there is a surgical error, it may increase the couple’s odds of pregnancy after the male partner has had a vasectomy. While this is a very rare phenomenon and may seldom happen, it also is the reason to go for a post-semen analysis to establish the success of the vasectomy. Therefore, it is very important that the surgery is done by an expert in the field.
A vasectomy is one of the most preferred forms of birth controls, and it also has a very high success rate. However, as discussed above, no form of birth control is a hundred per cent safe. Therefore, in case you want to know more about your options on birth control, you should get in touch with your doctor. Also, if you and your partner wish to have a baby after the vasectomy surgery, it may be possible too. You should get in touch with your doctor and find out about the various ways to increase your chances of getting pregnant after the vasectomy.
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गर्भधारणा: ३१वा आठवडा
तुमचं बाळ तुमच्याजवळ येण्यासाठी अगदी थोडा काळ राहिला आहे. जर तुम्हाला ३१व्या आठवड्याविषयी काही प्रश्न असतील तर त्यांची उत्तरे हा लेख वाचल्यास तुम्हाला मिळतील आणि त्यानुसार तुम्ही तुमच्या बाळाच्या स्वागताची तयारी करू शकता.
गर्भारपणाच्या ३१व्या आठवड्यातील तुमचे बाळ
आता तुमच्या बाळाच्या मेंदूची वाढ वेगाने होत असते. कोट्यवधी चेतासंधी (synapses) चेतापेशींमध्ये विकसित होत असतात, सगळ्यांना पंचेंद्रियांकडून सतत माहिती मिळत असते. बाळ पोटामध्ये वेगवेगळे हावभाव करीत असते तसेच श्वासोच्छवास घेत असते आणि गर्भजलात पोहत असते तसेच अंगठा चोखण्यात वेळ घालवते. बाळ तुमच्या आवाजास पाय मारून प्रतिसाद देते परंतु त्यामुळे तुम्हाला कुठलीही हानी पोहचत नाही किंवा वेदना होत नाहीत. काही बाळांना सतत उचक्या लागतात त्यामुळे उचक्यांच्या आवाजाने तुम्हाला जाग येणार आहे त्यास तयार रहा. तुमच्या बाळाचे डोळे पूर्णपणे विकसित झाले आहेत आणि त्यामुळे ते प्रकाशास प्रतिसाद देऊ लागले आहे. शरीरावरील स्नायू आणि चरबी आधीपेक्षा खूप जास्त प्रमाणात वाढली आहे. तुम्हाला असे लक्षात येईल की तुमचे बाळ तुम्ही त्याच्यासाठी लावलेल्या वेगवेगळ्या गाण्यांवर डुलत राहील.
बाळाचा आकार केवढा असतो?
गर्भारपणाच्या ३१व्या आठवड्यात बाळाचा आकार हा मोठ्या शहाळ्याएवढा असतो. बाळाचे वजन हे १ किलोग्रॅम इतके असते आणि बाळाची लांबी डोक्यापासून पायाच्या अंगठ्यापर्यंत ४० सेंटीमीटर इतकी असते.
शरीरात होणारे बदल
तुमच्या पोटातील वाढत्या बाळाला घेऊन हालचाल करणे प्रत्येक आठवड्याला अवघड होत चालले आहे. तुम्हाला गर्भारपणाच्या ३१व्या आठवड्यात नवीन काही बदलांचा अनुभव येईल.
श्वसनास त्रास
बाळामुळे गर्भाशयाचा दाब हा फुप्फुसांवर पडतो आणि त्यामुळे नेहमीपेक्षा तुम्ही, उथळ आणि संथ श्वास घ्याल, परंतु तुम्हाला बाळाची काही चिंता नसावी कारण बाळाला नाळेद्वारे ऑक्सिजनचा पुरवठा होतो. जर तुम्ही जास्त धावपळ करत असाल तर थोडा वेग कमी करण्याची गरज आहे. येत्या काही महिन्यांमध्ये फुप्फुसांवरील ताण वाढणार असल्यामुळे श्वसनास त्रास होण्याची शक्यता आहे.
स्तनांमधील स्त्राव
तुमचे स्तन कोलोस्ट्रम (Colostrum) नावाचा पिवळा पदार्थ निर्मिती करण्यास सुरुवात करतील, जे तुमच्या बाळाचे जन्मानंतरचे पहिल्या ३ दिवसाचे अन्न आहे.
नखे तुटणे
आत्तापर्यंत तुमचे केस आणि नखे ह्यांची वाढ वेगाने होत होती, परंतु तुमची नखे आता कोरडी होतील आणि संप्रेरकांमधील बदलांमुळे त्यांना लगेच तडे जातील. त्यामुळे नखे वेळीच कापून छोटी ठेवण्याची काळजी घ्या.
सराव कळा (Braxton Hicks Contractions)
ह्या सराव कळा तुम्ही आधीपेक्षा जास्त अनुभवाल. सजलीत रहा. तसेच एकाच जागी जास्त वेळ बसून किंवा झोपून राहू नका. असे केल्यास अस्वस्थता कमी होण्यास मदत होईल.
रक्ताच्या घनतेमध्ये वाढ
बरीचशी पोषणमूल्ये आणि ऑक्सिजनचा पुरवठा तुमच्या नाळेला केला जात असल्याने तुमच्याकडे ५०% जास्त रक्ताचा साठा आहे.
३१ व्या आठवड्यात आढळणारी गर्भारपणाच्या लक्षणे
तिसऱ्या तिमाहीच्या मध्यावर, गर्भारपणाची लक्षणे खूप बदलतात आणि सहन करण्याची क्षमता कमी होते. तथापि, त्या अस्वस्थतेविषयी आणि त्यावरील उपायांविषयी माहिती असल्यास तुम्हाला त्यातून बाहेर पडणे सहज शक्य होईल.
वारंवार लघवीला होणे
तुम्हाला आधीपेक्षा जास्त वेळ बाथरूमला जावे लागेल. मूत्राशयावर दाब पडल्याने, मुत्राशयामध्ये जास्त प्रमाणात मूत्र साठून रहात नाही.
पाठदुखी
बाळाच्या वजनामुळे तुमच्या पाठीच्या कण्यावर जास्त प्रमाणात दाब पडेल आणि तुमचा बांधा सुद्धा बदलेल. शरीराचा तोल सांभाळणे कठीण होईल. त्यामुळे नियमितपणे स्ट्रेचिंग करा आणि शरीराचा बांधा चांगला राहण्याचे तंत्र शिका.
झोपण्यास त्रास होणे
गर्भारपणामुळे हे होत नाही, परंतु बाकीचे इतर घटक जसे की पेटके येणे, अपचन, रात्रीचे लघवीसाठी उठणे किंवा झोपण्यासाठी आरामदायक स्थिती नसणे इत्यादींमुळे झोपण्यास त्रास होतो.
ओटीपोटात दुखणे
गर्भाशय वाढल्यामुळे ओटीपोटावर दाब पडतो आणि त्यामुळे ओटीपोटात दुखते. ते सहन करणे खूप कठीण असते त्यामुळे तुमच्या डॉक्टरांशी किंवा फिजिओथेरपिस्टशी संपर्क साधून योग्य व्यायाम शिकून घ्या, त्यामुळे तुमचे दुखणे कमी होण्यास मदत होईल.
गर्भधारणेच्या ३१व्या आठवड्यात पोटाचा आकार
गर्भारपणाच्या ३१व्या आठवड्यात तुमचे वजन १०-१२ किलोंनी जास्त असते. ह्या जास्तीच्या वजनामुळे तुम्हाला तोल सांभाळणे कठीण जाईल, परंतु काळजी करण्याचे कारण नाही. तसेच पोटाचा घेर वरून खालपर्यंत ३०सेंमी इतका आहे, तुमच्या पोटाची त्वचा ताणली गेल्यामुळे मॉइश्चरायझर आणून ठेवा.
गर्भधारणेच्या ३१व्या आठवड्यातील सोनोग्राफी
आता इथूनपुढे तुमच्या गर्भारपणातील प्रत्येक प्रगतीवर लक्ष ठेवण्यासाठी तुमचे डॉक्टर्स तुम्हाला दर आठवड्याला सोनोग्राफी करण्यास सांगू शकतात, विशेषतः जर तुम्हाला मधुमेह असेल किंवा तुम्हाला एकापेक्षा जास्त बाळे होणार असतील तर ही शक्यता जास्त असते. स्कॅन मध्ये तुम्हाला कळते की तुमचे बाळ आता पूर्णपणे विकसित झालेले आहे, तसेच बाळाचे सगळे अवयव संपूर्णतः विकसित झालेले आहेत. तुम्ही थ्री डी अल्ट्रासाऊंड सुद्धा करून पाहू शकता, त्यमुळे बाळाचा चेहरा आणि शरीरातील तपशील दिसतील.
बाळाचा आहार कसा असावा?
तुमच्या बाळाची तब्येत तुमच्या आहारावर अवलंबून आहे त्यामुळे प्रथिने, फळे, भाज्या, संपूर्ण धान्य तसेच दुग्धजन्य पदार्थ ह्यांचा योग्य प्रमाणात आहारात समावेश करा. पोटदुखी आणि अपचन टाळण्यासाठी थोड्या थोड्या वेळाने खात रहा. तळलेले, प्रक्रिया केलेले आणि चरबीने समृद्ध असलेले अन्नपदार्थ टाळले पाहिजेत किंवा अगदीच वाटलं तर कधीतरी खा. ३१ व्या आठवड्यात आहारातील बदल खालीलप्रमाणे:
व्हिटॅमिन सी आणि लोह:
तुमचे बाळ स्वतःच्या रक्त पेशी तयार करू लागले आहे त्यामुळे बाळाला आहारामध्ये जास्त लोहाची गरज भासते. आहारामध्ये व्हिटॅमिन सी घेतल्यास लोह शोषणास मदत होते. पालक, आंबट फळे, मासे, मटण आणि हिरव्या पालेभाज्या खा.
कॅल्शिअम:
बाळाच्या हाडांसाठी तसेच नखे, उपास्थी ह्यांच्या विकासासाठी कॅल्शिअमची खूप गरज असते. तसेच निरोगी राहण्यासाठी कॅल्शिअमची गरज असते. भरपूर दूध प्या, कोबी, पालक, टोफू, पनीर, सोयाबीन हे कॅल्शिअम चे उत्तम स्रोत आहेत, त्यांचा आहारात समावेश करा.
तसेच तुमच्या शरीराला लोह आणि कॅल्शिअम दोघांची गरज असते, त्यामुळे लोह आणि कॅल्शिअम एकत्र घेऊ नका कारण कॅल्शिअममुळे लोहाचे शरीरातील शोषण कमी होते. त्यामुळे तुम्ही लोह आणि कॅल्शिअमच्या पूरक गोळ्या दिवसातून वेगवेगळ्या वेळेला घेऊ शकता.
काय काळजी घ्याल आणि त्याविषयीच्या काही टिप्स
इथे काही टिप्स दिल्या आहेत त्या तुम्ही तुमच्या गर्भारपणात जवळ ठेऊ शकता:
हे करा
प्रसुतीपूर्व वर्गांची नोंदणी करण्यासाठी ही योग्य वेळ आहे. त्या वर्गांचे प्रशिक्षक हे बाळाच्या जन्माच्या वेळी येणाऱ्या सगळ्या प्रश्नांची माहिती देतात जसे की दुखण्याचे नियोजन कसे करावे?, ताणापासून सुटका कशी करावी? आणि नवजात बाळाची काळजी कशी घ्यावी? इत्यादी.
तुमची दवाखान्यात जातानाची बॅग भरून ठेवा.
नेहमी दिवसाकाठी कमीत कमी २-३ लिटर्स पाणी प्या त्यामुळे तुम्हाला उत्साही वाटेल तसेच तुम्ही सजलीत रहाल.
kegel सारखे व्यायाम करा त्यामुळे तुमच्या ओटीपोटावरचे स्नायू बळकट होण्यास मदत होईल.
हे करू नका
बाळाच्या पाय मारण्याकडे दुर्लक्ष करू नका. बाळाच्या पाय मारण्याच्या नमुन्याच्या अभ्यासामुळे बाळाचे पोटात असतानाचे मृत्यूचे प्रमाण कमी झाले आहे.
वजन वाढल्यामुळे चेहऱ्याला सूज आली आहे असे समजू नका. कारण ते preeclampsia चे लक्षण असू शकते, त्यामुळे तुमच्या डॉक्टरांशी तात्काळ संवाद साधा.
कुठल्या गोष्टींची खरेदी कराल?
तुमच्या नवजात बाळाची खोली कशी सजवावी ह्याविषयीचा विचार आणि माहिती काढण्यासाठी ही योग्य वेळ आहे. गर्भारपणासाठी पुरेसे मॅटर्निटी कपडे आणून ठेवा, तसेच बाळंतपणानंतर तुम्हाला लागणारे कपडे खरेदी करण्यास विसरू नका. तुम्ही नार्सिंग ब्रा, बाळासाठी बाटल्या आणि इतर गोष्टी आणून ठेवल्या पाहिजेत. जर तुम्ही बाळासाठी क्रिब घेणार असाल तर बंपर्स असलेले क्रिब घेऊ नका तसेच त्यामध्ये उशा, खेळणी किंवा ब्लँकेट्स ठेऊ नका कारण ह्या वस्तूंमुळे सीड्स (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome ) चा धोका असतो. तसेच बाळाला बाहेर नेण्यासाठी छोटी बाबागाडी घ्या त्यामुळे बाळाला ताजी हवा मिळेल.
तुमच्या प्रसूतीची वेळ जवळ आल्यामुळे तुम्ही सगळी तयारी करून ठेवा आणि बाळासोबत आनंदाचे क्षण घालवण्यासाठी तयार रहा.
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We often think that outbursts and tantrums are inevitable for children and may not spend time thinking of ways to handle them. “Let them be kids” is not always the correct train of thought when it comes to emotions. Studies say that self-control is a lesson best learnt when you're young.
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1. Temperament
Temperament of a child comes from a sum of adaptability, moods, attention span and instinct (which comes from parenting, which is your responsibility!). Make a mental note of your child's outbursts and see if they are similar to yours or not. For e.g. a shy child with an extrovert parent may be frustrating both parties, resulting in a child getting defiant or disobedient.
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Your child's ability to think, problem-solve and plan are to some extent inborn. While you cannot control the temperament of your child, you can support these capabilities. Helping your child develop impulse control early means you have to train him to activate the thinking part of his brain instead of letting him resort to the fight or flight option. This means that if you patiently show your child the solution to an overwhelming problem, he may not resort to name-calling or yelling as a means to vent out emotions.
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Internal speech has been shown to help children control their impulses.
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Toddlers are known to imitate adults, specifically older siblings and parents. When you feel a burst of anger, explain the solution out loud. “I had a bad day at work and I'm frustrated, maybe a soothing bath will calm me down”. These solutions are being closely watched and your child will mimic them when faced with a similar emotion.
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