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8 Things Parents Shouldn't Share on Social Media, As Per Child Experts
We live in the social media generation. Family albums with thick covers have given way to deft albums online, and time spent visiting relatives’ homes is now spent chatting them up on Facebook. Even if you were not a huge social media fan earlier in life, that may change after you become a parent. There is such an immense joy in your life now and so many happy moments every day, that the urge to share is greater than ever. While sharing content related to our children online is a great way of spreading happiness, there is something you must warn against. Child experts have come forth with some very disturbing reasons to NEVER share this online!
Parents have emerged as one of the most active groups of people online. The digital world lets us stay connected to our friends and family even though motherhood restricts how much time we can spend with them face-to-face. This is why we use the internet and platforms like Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram to share updates on our bundles of joy. This trend of overuse of social media by parents to share content based on their children is being popularly called “Sharenting”. It may seem harmless at the outset but new insights revealed by child psychiatrists and digital experts will present a very different, immensely scary picture.
The Child-Related Updates You Should Never Share on Social Media
When you share certain sensitive and high-risk information about your children online, you expose them to a number of risks. This information may seem safe and innocent to you but the damage it can do is severe.
Photos or posts that reveal your child’s present location or places he visits everyday – e.g. back-to-school pictures that give away his school’s name and location and the route he uses to travel to and fro from home
Posts that intend to shame, punish or document his bad behaviour in any way – e.g. detailed record of a tantrum he threw at the movie theatre
Embarrassing, nude or semi-clothed pictures taken just to document the occasion – e.g. potty training pictures or bath-time pictures
Posts that give away personal or confidential information about your child’s health – e.g. details of his medical condition or daily behaviour
Photos from a time your child was sick, injured or crying, even if only intended to share the sorrow
Updates that detail the vacation, picnic, summer camp or school outing your child is going on, with details that can make tracking possible
Photos that contain pictures of other people’s children without taking their permission first – e.g. birthday party pictures of your child that also feature kids from the neighbourhood
Photos or videos that occupy your time while clicking them, which means you don’t take actual part in the occasion – e.g. videos of your little girl’s dance performance where you couldn’t cheer because you were recording and also disturbed the other audience members
The Terrifying Risks of Sharenting
1. Cause Shame or Trauma to your Children
That picture of your child exhibiting his worst tantrum or wetting the bed night after night may seem cute right now. But when your child grows up, there is no telling how he will react to the entire world knowing about how he was a bedwetter! Experts have discovered that the shame or trauma that such updates can cause to children is far deeper than thought earlier.
2. Fuel Chances of an Online Paedophile Attack
The internet is a breeding ground for criminals and paedophiles. They exist oblivious to us for the most part, but they sure do! If your child-related content is not protected and falls in the hands of these preying pedophiles, it can create a horrifying situation.
"Paedophiles are always prying on the social media. It makes them vulnerable to various forms of attacks, too." - Psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty
3. Breaches Your Child’s Privacy Permanently
You may be the parent but that doesn't give you the right to display everything about your child for everyone to see. This may well be the retort you should prepare for if you breach your child's privacy online.
4. Increase Risk of Identity Theft
How would you feel if your teenager went out to get a driver's licence and discovered that someone else had already been issued one in his name? Wacky and impossible as this seems, identity theft over the internet is a very real thing and has happened to several children around the globe. ||
5. Exposes Your Child to Cyber Bullying
Ugly babies. Fat little girls. Dark-skinned boys. These may seem horrible stereotypes but they exist on the internet! No parent would want their child to be exposed to such bullying digitally, but sharing unreasonable updates does exactly that.
6. Spoil The Parent-Child Relationship
Finally, experts have also noted that sharing content without your child's consent is interpreted as a sign of domination and disregard. In the long run, it can mess with the bond you share with your child as he sees you as a controlling parent!
"When parents violate these basic fundamental rules, the trust factor is eroded. Many teens come to me, harbouring grudges and resentment against parents. They feel that their parents are dominating and also don't respect their identity as individuals - Psychologist Seema Hingorrany
Critical Things to Remember Before Posting Anything About Your Child
That said, all this doesn’t have to mean you stop sharing and documenting your experiences of parenting completely! The internet is a terrific place to get help, support and reassurance as well as record memories for a lifetime. You only have to keep in mind some strict guidelines before you hit “post” on anything that relates to your child:
Double check your social media privacy settings. Are you sure you want everyone on Facebook to have access to personal posts that reveal your child’s age, location or habits? Stop giving access to third parties and keep the personal, personal
Disable the location settings on your social media accounts. There is no need for everyone to know your present location if you don’t want them and use this as an opportunity to stalk your child
Consider changing the settings of your social media albums to private. Why does everyone on Facebook need to have access to pictures you want to keep to yourself?
If you want to share bulk pictures and albums with your family and friends, say photos from her first birthday party, use a private network for this
Your kids learn from you. If you are a responsible social media user, that’s what they will grow up to be. The internet is a like a double-edged sword. It can delight and unite, but it can also bring danger and pain. It all depends on the caution you exert as a user, and more importantly, as a parent. Be careful! Read more
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एक बार कोलकाता से मेरे मामा-मामी और उनका 6 साल का बेटा सोहम जिसे हम प्यार से सोनू बुलाते हैं आए हुवे थे। मम्मी ने मुझे बाजार से कुछ सामान लाने को कहा तो सोनू भी साथ में चलने की जिद करने लगा। मैं उसके साथ खेलती और बहुत मस्ती करती हूं ना तो मेरे साथ रहना उसे अच्छा लगता है। लेकिन बाजार घर से थोड़ा दूर था सोचा वो इतना दूर पैदल नही चल पाएगा। तो मैंने उसे मना किया कि गोदी नही लुंगी मैं, पैर दर्द करेंगे तुम्हारे, मैं तुम्हारे लिए चॉकलेट्स लेकर आऊँगी आदि। लेकिन वो नहीं माना रोने लगा उसे रोते देख मुझसे भी रहा नही गया और मैंने उसे चलने को कह दिया। हिदायत के साथ के गोदी नही लूंगी पैदल चलना होगा।
वो मान गया सारे रास्ते न जाने कितने उलट-पलट सवाल पूछता और अपनी बातें बता रहा था। उसकी बातें प्यारी थी लेकिन बहुत सारी थी। हम मार्केट पहुँच गए सामान लिया उसको चॉकलेट और आइस क्रीम दिलाई और घर की तरफ आ रहे थे कि तभी सोनू भरे बाजार में चिलाया " चींटी काटा..चींटी काटा बहुत जोर से चींटी काटा"। मै भी हड़बड़ा गयी और पूछा "क्या हुआ कहां क्या काटा"। वो तो बस कूदते हुए बोले जा रहा था " चींटी काटा.. चींटी काटा"। मैंने उसे शान्त करते हुवे पूछा "कहाँ काटी है चींटी तुम्हें बताओ मुझे"।
उसने घूमते हुए अपने हिप्स की तरफ इशारा करते हुए कहता है "यहाँ काटा निकालो जल्दी से"। मुझे उस मासूम की बात सुन के एक बार तो बहुत जोर से हँसी आयी फिर मैंने उसके हिप्स के ऊपर हाथ फेरते हुवे कहा" ये लो अब ठीक है अब नही काटेगी चलो अब"। लेकिन सोनू तो चिलाने लगा नहीं "आप चींटी को निकालो जल्दी काट रही है"। अब मै क्या करती भरे बाजार में मैने फिर से हाथ से झड़काया और कहा "घर चलो वहाँ निकाल दूँगी अभी कैसे निकालू, और अब नही काटेगी ,नही है कोई चींटी"।
लेकिन सोनू कहां मानने वाला था उसने अपने छोटे-छोटे हाथों की अंगुलियों से चिकोटी बनाते हुवे कहा "दीदी मैं पेंट नीचे करता हूं आप ऐसे पकड़ के ऐसे निकाल दो"। ये कहते हुए वो अपनी पेन्ट नीचे कर ही रहा था कि मैने झट से उसकी पेन्ट ऊपर करते हुवे कहा "नहीं यहाँ सबके सामने शेम-शेम हो जाएगी"। मुझे एक तरफ उसकी बातों और उसके किये इशारों पर बहुत हंसी आ रही थी तो दूसरी तरफ परेशान भी हो रही थी कि करूं क्या। मेरे हँसने पर वो भी हंस रहा था रो नहीं रह था तो ये बात तो पक्की थी कि अब उसे कुछ काट नही रहा। लेकिन बच्चों को समझाना बहुत मुश्किल काम है।
अब वो बार - बार हाथ से इशारा करे जा रहा था और चिलाये जा रहा था " ऐसे पकड़के निकाल दो चींटी काट रहा है मुझे"। और अपनी पेन्ट नीचे करने लगा फिर मैंने एक हाथ से उसका मुँह बंद किया दूसरे हाथ से उसको और सामान के बैग को उठाया और एक किनारे ले आयी और बोली"अब बताओ कहाँ है चींटी कहाँ काट रही है, तुम खुद ही ऐसे पकड़ के (चिकोटी का इशारा करते हुए) उसे निकाल लो"। तब सोनू ने कहा "नही आप निकालो.. अब नही काट रही"। ये सुन मेरी सांस में सांस आयी और उसे चलने को कहा।
सोनू ने कहा "नही ..चलूँगा तो फिर काटा तो.. आप गोदी ले लो"। तो मैंने कहा "गोदी कैसे लूं मैं, हाथ में सामान भी तो है", "अब घर पास ही है जल्दी पहुँच जायेगे"। लेकिन वो कहा मानने वाला था कहने लगा "आपने चींटी निकाली नहीं वो फिर से काटेगी तो मेरी मम्मी निकाल देगी, आप गोदी लेके चलो"। अब मेरे पास कोई उपाय नही था देर भी बहुत हो चुकी थी और सोनू मानने वाला भी नहीं था। उसे गोद में लिया सामान पकड़ा और घर आगयी। थक गई थी बहुत लेकिन सबको जब " चींटी काटा" वाली बात बताई तो सब हँसने लगे। सोनू अपनी मम्मी को कहता हैं "मैने दीदी को बताया ऐसे निकालो , इनको आता ही नहीं निकालना" ये सुन हम सब हँसने लगे। आज भी वो बात याद करती हूं और सोनू जो अब बड़ा हो गया है उसे बताती हूँ तो हँसे बिना नही रह पाती।
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Becoming parent for the first time is really very life changing and a joyous moment😍😍😍. I Came to know the news accidently when I had gone for check up to know why I am suffering from loose motions, Doctor insisted to do all preliminary test required pre conception even though it had nothing to do with loosemotions and then suddenly one fine day Phone bell rang and Dr told to meet,various thoughts in mind about anything serious in reports with sudden news...... congratulations !!! She is 6 weeks pregnant 🥰🥰🥰 My heart started pumping fast, Brain went numb and within a second realising ,ohhhhh God a little one inside me ...
My pregnancy was really" Happy period "😙😙 though there was and is a pandemic going all over, Taken all care and measures required for a normal healthy pregnancy. My Husband helped me a lot to making my journey amazing and beautiful in this hard COVID situation .
With a good healthy Diet I used to practise Grabhsanskar and meditation regularly for a Happy Mind
Use to follow prenatal/ antenatal series
7th month I Started with prenatal yoga.
To elaborate on Garbhsankar and meditation today there are lot of YouTube channels online antenatal classes where you can just join by your choice and follow that .
This is utmost required for a peaceful mind so that what thoughts it create you can actually bring them in action (Eg -I always use to talk to my Baby that how she will travel through the birth canal and want her to expireince that leading to natural normal Birth )
There is no new thing everyone will think , but for me it's really something supernatural power we women have, in this today's life where I hear c section to be normal, premature preterm births as everyday part, uniqueness in my story is I had smooth pregnancy ending in a natural vaginal birth without induction
I just want to encourage all to be momies and those trying to conceive .
You can really have a very good experience of healthy pregnancy by just keeping your mind happy with good thoughts as these thoughts really make your babies personality.
I experienced it truly and would really suggest ladies to experience in their own way, as every pregnancy is unique .
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Men & Women are completely different - if you keep this in mind you can lead a happy married life.
Men can't multitask- It's very important to understand that men can't focus on multiple things and multitask like we females do. Hence be patient and keep reminding then twice or thrice.
Just hear- husbands do remember if you just listen to what your wife wants to say half of the problems get solved. Stay by them when she needs you by her side.
Keep your ego away- Keep both male and female egos aside. Accept the things you don't know, ask the other person if you don't know even a simple thing.
Appreciate the hard work- both wife and husband put their efforts to run the family smoothly then what's wrong in appreciating eachother and sharing the work together.
Give importance to small things -that makes other person happy, let it be a small break with friends or couple of hours at a hair spa.
Never get into bed with a fight- try sorting the fight on the same day, sit and talk it out the same day, never take decisions in anger. Try never to break trust in each other, trust once broken can never ever be fixed.
Having couple time together- daily 10 min over a cup of tea, watching a movie together, cooking together. Having a walk.
Never insult eachother- try encouraging each other and be supportive.
Sharing the kids duties- if one feeds them the other should spend time playing, this makes kids and parents happy.
Now a days both wife and husband go to work, it's important to be supportive to ecah other and spending quality time together. Avoid using gadgets at home, have a face to face conversations, hold hands when ever possible.
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Trying To Conceive
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Q. Hello I had my period missed for April month and today I got my period. Is it normal to have period after 1 month or is there anything I should be worried about? Iam worried please let me know if that's ok or should I consult my doctor
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A. consult your doctor for any evaluation required. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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Q. hllo am in 34 week of pregnancy,cramps in my hand and foots,my pulses is very fast,i feel tiredness internally,are these symptoms are normal
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A. get investigations particularly hemoglobin level. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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Q. i feel some fever internally also
Dr Ghouse
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A. please check the temperature and get the investigations. fever can be because of different reasons most of the times viral bacterial sometimes due to less immunity there can be recurrence better to treat only with paracetamol if the fever more than 100degr
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Q. Now I am having pain till then my miscarriage has been done at home
Rashmi
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A. I’m sorry I’m unable to understand your query as you haven’t given any detail about it so whatever the situation is you should get a check with your gynaecologist the doctor would be able to give you better help in whatever treatment of precaution you need to require further
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Q. Hello
What is better normal or csec?
shilpi Bhandari
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A. hello dear this is not about which is better this is all about your body and the condition of the baby no doubt the normal procedure is the painful but side effect are not there but after C6 you have to be little more careful and you have to take more precaution but again I am saying that this is not about the better one this is about the condition of your pregnancy
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A. It depends on moms and babys health I feel and suggest It's better to check with your doctor and follow their advise. That would be one of the best and safest option for your baby as of now. Take care.
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