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Threatened Abortion - Reasons, Signs & Treatment
Nearly every pregnant mother has had the thought of miscarriage cross her mind. Which is why most mothers take utmost precaution in ensuring no harm comes to the baby in any case. However, certain situations may arise when you may find your vagina to be bleeding with some pain. Such scenarios need to be addressed immediately since they could signify a threatened abortion.
What is Threatened Abortion or Threatened Miscarriage?
In the first 20 weeks of pregnancy, nearly 1/3rd of women experience bleeding from the vagina and most of them do complete the entire term of pregnancy. However, in some mothers, the vaginal bleeding could be accompanied by abdominal cramping and pain in the region. These could indicate the possibility of a miscarriage, needing a pre-emptive abortion to protect the mother. Since it is a possibility, it is termed as a threatened abortion or a threatened miscarriage.
Symptoms of Threatened Abortion
Nearly all threatened abortions are preceded by bleeding occurring from the vagina, which majorly occurs in the initial 20 weeks of pregnancy. Other symptoms include,
Cramping in the abdominal area that accompanies the bleeding is also observed.
Pain in the lower back or the abdominal region, that could be dull but constant or even sharp spikes at times might also occur.
Certain women observe some material resembling a clot or a tissue, that they pass from their vagina.
Causes of Threatened Abortion
Some of the causes of a threatened abortion are,
Certain anomalies present in the chromosomes of the embryo have been termed to be responsible in miscarriage at extremely initial pregnancy stages.
Most women face threatened abortion due to a cervix that can’t hold the baby, fibroids of the uterus, inflamed villi, or even the presence of other diseases and conditions.
Any swelling or inflammation in the interior parts of the uterus could trigger a miscarriage as well.
Feverish chills, extreme fatigue, physical, mental, emotional stress, are all factors that could cause a threatened abortion.
Repeat mothers face higher chances of a threatened miscarriage if they have had multiple children.
Statistically, about 10% of women lose their pregnancy in extremely early stages.
Diagnosis of Threatened Miscarriage
In case of vaginal bleeding and abdominal pain, a nursing diagnosis for threatened abortion is the first step any pregnant mother should take to get clarity on the situation.
Doctors start from the source of the problem and begin with the vaginal bleeding. They try to pinpoint the origin of the bleeding as well as check to see if the amniotic sac is intact. This examination usually involves the vagina, uterus and the cervix where the entire region of the reproductive system is properly checked for any anomalies.
A threatened abortion ultrasound is the next step that is undertaken. This is to primarily understand the health of the baby and check if the heart is still beating properly and the growth is normal. In case the bleeding has been determined to emerge from the uterus, an ultrasound helps quantify it to take necessary actions. In the initial weeks of pregnancy, doctors prefer to undertake a transvaginal ultrasound using a probe inside the vagina, instead of the traditional abdomen-based ultrasound. This probe is inserted a few inches deep in the vagina and high-frequency sound waves are emitted. These are then sensed to create a vivid image of the internal foetal structure and look for anomalies.
Since hormones can also be another culprit responsible for the condition, a blood test that includes a full blood count will be undertaken. These tests measure the HCG, or the human chorionic gonadotropin hormone, as well as progesterone. Both these hormones are produced to invoke and support pregnancy and are necessary to be present in the right amount.
Treatment & Medication
Bedrest is the primary requirement to recover from a threatened abortion. Any kind of physical activities, including sexual intercourse, should be strongly avoided.
In case of the presence of conditions such as diabetes or thyroid related complications, the doctor might prescribe appropriate medication to treat them and support the pregnancy.
In certain cases, the mother’s blood group might be Rh negative while the baby’s blood group might be Rh positive. This then causes the mother’s body to start creating antibodies and combat the format of the foetus’ blood. In such cases, doctors administer Rh immunoglobulins to keep this behaviour in check.
If the tests reveal reduced levels of hormones, treatment of threatened abortion with progesterone injections might also be undertaken to bring them to the required amount.
To stop the bleeding or any uterine contractions, haemostatic drugs or even tocolytic agent based medication might be given by your doctor to help mitigate the condition.
Complications of Threatened Miscarriage
With any health-related condition, and especially with pregnancy, there are strong chances of complications occurring even after taking the right actions in a threatened miscarriage.
Since there is blood loss that takes place from the vagina, and the amount can sometimes be quite substantial, mothers could end up suffering from anaemia, which further deteriorates her health. In extreme conditions, doctors may even advise undertaking a blood transfusion in order to quickly bring the iron levels in the blood to a normal state.
Due to illnesses, an infection might make its way to the foetus or even infect the region around it, leading to possible complications.
The final condition might be such where a miscarriage does occur and the mother loses her foetus, or the foetus is not in a state to be carried to full term, and hence, requires to be aborted. This can be quite taxing for the mother physically as well as emotionally. In such cases, doctors also take high precautions in ensuring a fatal complication such as ectopic pregnancy, doesn’t take place.
Will You be Able to Work After Threatened Abortion?
Listening to your body and understanding it is the best way to know if you’re ready for work or not. In case your work is physically intensive, then it is highly advised to take some more time off and get as much rest as possible and recover properly. If your work is mostly sedentary and you feel that you are well-rested and fine, you may gradually start going to work.
Can Threatened Abortion or Miscarriage Be Prevented?
Such conditions cannot be fully prevented. However, their chances of occurring can be reduced by taking certain precautions.
Avoiding alcohol, tobacco, drugs, cigarette, completely
Reducing the intake of caffeine based drinks to the very minimal
Refraining from consuming any food items that are known to be harmful during pregnancy
Treating any infections as soon as they are diagnosed
Having a healthy and balanced diet, with supplementary vitamins and nutrients
Proper and safe exercise, along with non-exposure to harmful chemicals and environments
Long-Term Outlook
Most women deliver happy healthy babies even after experiencing the conditions of a threatened miscarriage. It primarily depends on the conditions of the cervix, uterus, and your hormone levels.
In case you do suffer from a miscarriage, you can still have a successful pregnancy after that. If you have had multiple miscarriages sequentially, then a doctor’s examination is highly advised.
Management of threatened abortion or miscarriage is not simply a medical activity. The entire process can affect a mother emotionally and cause undue anxiety and stress during the pregnancy or even for subsequent ones. Talk to people who provide you with emotional support and don’t hesitate from undertaking therapy if required.
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Feed Your Baby These 8 Foods, Or Risk His Brain Development - Doctors Warn Indian Parents!
This recent news report could be the one-stop solution to improved brain development in Indian babies. Are you ready to make your baby even smarter?
One of our most favourite quotes on women is:
(Fe)male:
noun
A person with extra iron, added for extra strength, ductility, and malleability.
While that quote is awesome on many levels, it points to an important lesson in nutrition: iron is an important nutrient that should be a part of every person's daily diet.
The benefits of iron are many and manifold, we all know that. Iron deficiency – known as anaemia – is a common disorder that has been discussed over the years. But do we as parents realize just how big a concern it is and if our little ones could also be at risk? According to a recent report of a study conducted by the Community Institute of Management Studies (CIMS), Bangalore, it has been indicated that up to 90% of children could be NUTRIENT-DEFICIENT, because their diet lacks many essential nutrients, primarily iron.
Why This Should Concern You
According to the report, iron deficiency is one of the leading risk factors that hinders proper brain development in your baby, and this cannot be reversed. Up to 90 % of your child's brain development happens during pregnancy and in the first 3 years of life. A deficiency in iron at this time can lead to irreversible damage to a child’s brain development that nothing may be able to correct later in life! What's worse: this deficiency is seen to be highest (49.5 %) in 6-23 months old children!
Micronutrient deficiency, also known as hidden hunger, is a serious cause of concern, especially in a developing country like India. Just imagine: the study mentioned above was conducted in a metro city. If 90% of the kids there are deficient in micronutrients, can you imagine what the state might be in smaller towns and villages? Scale that up to the country-level, and we are basically becoming a nation of poorly developed individuals.
Micronutrients – like vitamins, and the micro- and macro-minerals – are essential for proper growth and development of children. While these nutrients are required in minute quantities – in the range of 50 to 100 milligrams per day – the role they play in the body is irreplaceable.
Iron and Your Baby's Cognitive Development
In spite of iron being the most important and common micronutrient required by humans, iron deficiency is the biggest and most common nutrient deficiency in the world. The primary effects of iron deficiency on brain development are
Abnormal auditory recognition memory – this means the baby is not able to recognise of remember familiar sounds, especially voices (like that of his mother, father, etc.), and distinguish them from unfamiliar sounds (like the voice of a stranger)
Abnormal reflexes – reflex actions and responses of the baby may not develop normally
Abnormal development of neurotransmitters – chemicals like dopamine act as neurotransmitters in the body; they transmit signals to and from the brain and help the body to function
Diminished social engagement.
8 Super Foods To Fight Iron Deficiency
The report also highlighted why Indian diet for children has become deficient in iron. Indian diets are majorly grain and plant based, which means our intake of iron rich pulses, green leafy vegetables and meat is less than required. While our children consume macronutrients like carbohydrates, fats and proteins, they do not get enough of micronutrients like iron and zinc.
Doctors have recommended the following foods to fight this risk in children. Please make it a point to mandatorily include these foods in your baby's diet so his brain can develop at its best!
1. Green Leafys “For My Growing Son-Daughter”
Confused about the latter part? It is a mnemonic to help you remember the 5 best green leafy vegetables that are excellent sources of iron!
Fenugreek, Mint, Green Amaranth, Spinach and Dill “For My Growing Son and Daughter”
You can try our delicious recipe of spinach soup for starters. You can turn the other veggies into a soup in a similar fashion too.
2. Sweet Potato
Sweet potato is a good 'first solid' for most babies. What’s more, it also is a rich source of iron. Cultivate a taste for sweet potato early on in your child, and continue giving him sweet potato through the years. Try our yummy sweet potato kheer.
3. Amaranth Seeds – Raajgira
While the actual vegetable is good too, many kids may refuse to have amaranth because of its taste. If that is the case with your child too, you can go for amaranth seeds instead. Raajgira ladoos can be added to milk, ground in the mixer, and turned into a palatable thick kheer that your child will gulp down in minutes!
4. Green Peas
Green peas is another favourite finger food among many babies and toddlers. Green peas too are an iron-rich food that will help in proper cognitive development of your baby. You can serve them boiled, or you can make a nice warm soup – depending on what food texture your child likes more. Our recipe of green peas soup combines two iron super-foods – peas and dill!
5. Soya Bean
Roasted soyabeans can make for a great mid-meal snack for growing kids. In addition you can grind them, and add them to your child's meals. Add ground soyabeans to the chapatti flour, and you have multigrain chapatti. You can even add soya chunks to rice and sabzi.
6. Peanuts
Peanuts not only make a great finger food, they are very versatile too. You can grind them and add them to kheers, or your child's lunch and other meals. You can add jaggery and make peanut ladoos, which your child will love to eat, especially after play time when energies are dipping. Jaggery is a great substitute for sugar in your child's diet. It is recommended to keep children away from the regular 'table' sugar we use till they turn at least 5 years of age. So why not use jaggery instead? In fact, everybody in the house can switch from sugar to jaggery for increased health benefits.
Note: Make sure you don't overdo it – too many peanuts can be bad for health too! Moderation is the key here.
7. Chickpea
The best and easiest way to serve chickpea to your baby or toddler is in the form of dal rice. If you choose unpolished rice, then the rice can also serve as a source of dietary iron. If not, you can try something different and whip up a bowl of hummus for your toddler.
8. Beetroot
Beetroot is recommended even to adults who have iron deficiency or suffer from low energy levels. Cultivate the habit of eating beetroot early on in your child by giving him boiled beetroot as a mid-meal snack. Beetroot can be diced into small cubes and served as finger food. Mix it with a bowl of boiled green peas, and your child is bound to love his colourful iron-bowl!
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If You're Doing At Least 8 of These 10 Things, We Guarantee Your Kids Will Rarely Fall ill
Highly successful people don’t do different things, they do things differently. The same can be said about people who rarely fall ill. While there is some amount of genetics involved in this (people who’ve been blessed with a good constitution are able to better ward off diseases and illnesses), there are a certain set of habits that all of us can adopt to keep ourselves fit.
Here are some highly-effective habits of strong parents and children that are a must for everyone to follow. After all, when it comes to any kind of disease or illness, prevention is always better than cure, right?
10 Things You Do as a Mother That Safeguard Your Child’s Health
The following tricks to prevent kids from getting sick are sure to make life easy for you, and keep most health problems at bay! We guarantee that if you follow at least 80% of this list, your kids will be safeguarded from most common infections.
1. You Serve Clean, Healthy Food to Kids
We are the food we eat, and it is important to eat good food in order to stay fit. Food is closely linked to not just our overall health and well-being, it is also associated with good immunity. Hidden hunger arising from nutrient deficiencies never occurs overnight, they are a result of sustained poor intake of the nutrient. A well-balanced diet of home-cooked food that meets all daily nutrient requirements of your child will help them grow at an optimum pace, and will also make their body strong from within.
2. You Limit Fast Food Consumption
It is not enough to only eat good food; it is also equally important to not eat junk or fast food.
WATCH: Top 10 Bad Effects of Fast Food on Health
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Key Takeaway: From obesity, heart diseases, diabetes, to loss of appetite, increased stress levels, and nutrient deficiencies, fast foods bring along a host of health problems that significantly reduce the quality of life, and make way for other illnesses to enter your life.
Junk food and fast food should be avoided for all the above reasons. However, the most significant reason to give up junk or fast food is the fact that it provides no nutrition to the body. Why would you want to eat or feed your child something that is not really nourishing the body?
3. You Curb Sugar Consumption and Stick to Natural Sugar
Children actually end up eating a lot of sugar. Every candy, chocolate, cake or pastry that your child eats is full of sugar, and consuming high-sugar foods can be a recipe for disaster. From dental problems and hyperglycaemia, to behavioural problems such as anxiety and temper tantrums, too much sugar can wreak havoc on your child’s body.
What’s most interesting to note here is how quickly and easily you can adopt the benefits of cutting down on your child’s sugar intake. According to a study conducted by the University of California, San Francisco last year, simply cutting down on ‘added sugar’ from the diet of obese children lead to improvement in there LDL levels (i.e. bad cholesterol), triglycerides level, as well as blood pressure in just nine days. (Added sugar here refers to high fructose corn syrup and sucrose specifically.)
However, children are young and will crave sweet! At such times, it is important you make a healthy choice. Offer them natural sugar – such as that in fresh fruits, milk, etc. and stay away from products that have added sugar in them in the form of sucrose, dextrose, starch, corn syrup, etc.
4. You Ensure the Kids Get Daily Exercise
Exercise should be made into a habit, and the best time to inculcate habits is when you are a child. Children who exercise regularly not only rarely fall ill, they are also able to sleep better, perform better at school, and are able to remain optimistic through life.
But what is the exact connection between exercise and immunity? Exercise promotes the circulation of lymphatic fluid, which carries lymphocytes – the white cells that fight off diseases and infections. So if you get lazy, so is your immune system going to, making you more prone to infections.
5. Your Kids Maintain Good Personal Hygiene Indoors & Outdoors
One of the important steps in keeping diseases at bay is to maintain a high degree of personal hygiene. Every child must be made to brush their teeth, have a bath, and comb their hair every day. Children should also be encouraged to wash their hands when they come home after spending time outdoors, before eating food, and before touching their face or private parts. They should be discouraged from sharing their personal belongings, especially towels, handkerchiefs, napkins, etc.
While stepping out of the house, children should dress appropriately, keeping the weather in mind. They should wear a good moisturiser and a good mosquito repellent that offers effective protection against mosquitoes. If you do not want to use any products on their skin, you can use a fabric roll-on like Good knight’s Fabric Roll-On. With just 4 dots of the completely natural product on your child’s clothes, you can protect them from mosquitoes for up to eight hours. This product makes a good mosquito repellent for children during all outdoor-time.
6. You Establish a Daily Routine and Break-time for Children
On the face of it, a regular daily routine might seem like the last thing related to a good immune system. However, there is a lot that a proper well-defined daily routine can do to keep you healthy and disease free. First up, it makes you and your body disciplined. Any new habits you want to inculcate can be worked into your routine and become easy to develop.
Daily routines also regulate the body’s sleep, hunger, bowel movement, and other patterns. Finally, they make us value our break-time, and use it constructively instead of just sitting in front of the TV! Especially with the increased amount of time that children are spending on screens, this becomes a very important point.
7. You Help Your Kids Get Adequate Sleep
All the body’s wear and tear is compensated for during sleep when different restorative processes help rejuvenate both the physical body and the mind. Effects of poor quality sleep and/or lack of sleep can be serious and long-lasting, affecting all walks of life – from poor performance at work or school to compromised immunity, weight gain, and many more. Getting enough sleep is as important as all the points above, to keep illness away!
Make sure you and your child get 8 hours of undisturbed sleep. Do not eat or drink one hour before going to bed, no cell phones, and ensure you use a good mosquito repellent. However, if your child is too young, vapours from chemical-based repellents can trouble them. Instead, dab 4 dots of GoodKnight Fabric Roll-On onto their cots to repel mosquitoes. It is completely natural and child-safe. Also, keep windows closed in the evenings, use a mosquito net, and keep the baby’s room closed through the day, when not in use.
8. Your House is Clean and Free of Mosquito-Breeding Spots
A clean house keeps most health problems and illnesses away. Start with getting rid of things you’ve not used for more than 6 months. Move and shift things around; never let them sit and catch dust. Pay special attention to stored water and the corners of rooms that are inaccessible – these are favourite places for mosquitoes to breed, and we all know that mosquitoes are our biggest fear and worst enemies! They spread diseases like dengue, malaria, etc., that take a very serious toll on children’s health. Keeping these places clean is a primary step towards mosquito protection.
9. You Take the Kids for Regular Doctor’s Check-ups
While we do everything we can to ensure all the above tips, it is always a good idea to get regular doctor’s check-ups done for all family members periodically – once every 3 months can be a good period. Get routine blood tests done, check for nutrient deficiencies and check their growth rate. A slowed down growth rate is often indicative of a serious health problem. A lot of things can be revealed by a doctor’s report that may not be evident to us. Also never disregard any symptoms of an illness. Fevers, colds, insect bites, etc., should all be given due attention.
10. You and the Kids Have Fun and Socialise
Finally, don’t take life too seriously! It has been reported that people who laugh more, engage in social activities on a regular basis, and have ample of interaction with other people in the real world (and not virtually), tend to live longer, have a better quality of life, and are able to ward off most coronary, hepatic, stress-related and lifestyle diseases. So remember to keep calm and chill out! Do not cause undue stress for your child over their grades, homework, and classes. Ensure you spend time together as a family. Hug each other, laugh together, and cuddle at bed-time.
Positive Impact of Socialising on Overall Health
Probably the first thing we think of when we are feeling down is calling a friend or stepping out. With changing times though, this is changing too; more and more of us are turning to social media instead of turning to another person.
However, according to a 2012 study carried out by the University College Dublin, it is increased social interaction that actually help to alleviate symptoms of depression. Social interactions that participants of this study engaged in included going for a movie, concert or play, going out for coffee or to eat, and enjoying a conversation on such outings.
Additionally, earlier this year, a study carried out in UK by Peter Howley and Christopher Boyce determined that “use of social networking websites is negatively associated with mental health”.
These and other similar studies point to the importance of face-to-face social contact and how it is important in our mental well-being. We all already know how mental and physical health is closely linked and interdependent. As a new-age 21st century mother, it is imperative that you not only encourage but foster social interactions for your child and family! A happy child is a healthy child.
So these are some of the ways to prevent getting sick. These may seem like simple measures, but these lifestyle changes will ensure you remain fit and develop a strong immunity. This, in turn, will protect you and your children from being vulnerable to infections.
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Aggression in Children - Reasons and Tips to Handle It
Pure dread takes over your heart when you see your child throw a gigantic fit in a public place. You as parents could feel completely flummoxed and may not know how to deal with your aggressive child. Aggression is fairly common in children between the age of 3-8 and in teenagers (due to a variety of changes both intrinsic and extrinsic occurring in their lives). They can occur in many forms of verbal aggression such as screaming, shouting incessantly, etc. It can even get physical, where the child kicks, hits, spits, pinches adults around him. It can get very difficult for parents to deal with such behaviour on a day to day basis.
Wisdom lies in knowing why aggression manifests and how to nip the situation in the bud when it does. There are quite a few tricks that one can employ as parents to deal with violent moods of children, and we break it down for you here.
What Causes Aggressive Behaviour in Kids?
Aggression can be caused in children due to a variety of reasons. As parents, it is good to break down the situation and understand what your child is dealing with internally in order to take quick, good decisions. Sometimes aggression can also arise because it is beyond the child's capabilities to solve a complex problem and that can lead them to become frustrated and nervous. If you are feeling completely overwhelmed and unable to comprehend how to tame your violent child, then getting to the bottom always helps. Maybe discuss with your partner and figure out how to handle the situation. Meanwhile, also try and interpret the reasons for this kind of a behaviour.
1. Impulsive Behaviour
Your child is extraordinary in their behaviour and many times they act spontaneously without reason or logic. For those with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and any other learning disorders, bad logic and impulsive behaviour can be mistaken for aggression. Children are often unaware of the significance of their actions.
2. Trauma
If your child is sulking or behaving differently it could also be a result of a traumatic incident at school or home. Maybe your child is getting bullied at school or has suffered abuse in some form. If the occurrences become frequent, there is an underlying issue at hand. They could also be suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome (PTSD).
3. Conduct Disorder
If your child is exhibiting antisocial behaviour and is acting out, it could be because of conduct disorder. It can become a serious emotional disorder that needs to be dealt with as soon as it’s identified. This is mainly because kids who suffer from this premeditate their negative actions and behaviour.
4. Psychosis
According to psychology, this is a serious mental disorder where emotions and thoughts are so impaired that individuals cannot deal with reality. This is the case for schizophrenic children who cannot comprehend their violent reactions. They are not aware of their surroundings in this case and have entered a state of psychosis and behave differently.
5. Mood Disorder
A mental disorder that makes individuals oscillate between aggression, depression and leads to maniacal outbursts. This is a case when it comes to children who have any form of bipolar disorder. Children who suffer from this lose self-control and become irritable and angry very quickly. These kids can then lash out in a physical or verbal manner.
6. Pure Frustration
If you have a hyperactive child and he becomes restless, and there is no outlet for his energy then he can get frustrated and throw tantrums. This could also be the case in children who have autism or intellectual impairment and get anxious or annoyed and do not know how to verbally communicate their feelings.
7. Injury
Sometimes when kids have a serious injury, they can have aggressive outbursts due to their frontal lobe being damaged. Sometimes aggression is noticed in some types of epilepsy as well. Any form of an upset in the physical health of a child such as if he/she is in constant pain could lead to outbursts.
8. Environmental Factors
If the situation at home is not conducive and a child has witnessed a dysfunctional relationship between family members, it could also contribute to aggressive behaviour. The triggers for this type of aggression could range from socio-economic to school issues. If your child is having difficulty with bullies in school or they are unable to concentrate on school work, this frustration and helplessness that builds up can also be a factor.
How to Handle Childhood Aggression of Your Kid?
When you are managing aggressive behaviour in children, it can get very infuriating to deal with it day in and out, leaving you exhausted. However, there are always ways to work around it and teach your children some good behaviour. Here are a few ways:
1. Lead by Example
Whenever you start to get angry with your kid for their volatile behaviour, calm yourself down by counting to 10. Be calm yourself and then lead by example by telling them that throwing tantrums and being physically or verbally abusive will not get them what they want. Maintain an even temperament throughout and do not give into the situation.
2. Create Time-Out
When your kid acts out, one good parenting technique to adhere to is to create a ‘time-out’. When they throw a fit, start by telling them in a calm voice that this will not work and tell them that they are getting a ‘time-out’ to deal with their own emotions. Repeat as many times as necessary and set a pattern in place. This will encourage your child to behave well when required and know that when they behave badly, there is a ‘time-out’ waiting for them by the end of it.
3. Teach Self-control
Self-control is an important lesson that will be useful to everyone even after they grow up. Exercise self-restraint and teach your kid not to kick or hit when they are angry. While parenting an aggressive child, this proves to be a great technique. All children do have the innate ability to control themselves, so remind them of it.
4. Discourage ‘Tough’ Syndrome
It is not okay to be ‘tough’ or to ‘toughen up’ when it comes to a difficult situation. Teach your kid not to be a bully or to suck it up when things are not working in their favour. Instead, explain things to them from a place of calmness. Encourage sharing and being okay with being vulnerable, or weak. Tell your child: it's okay to not know how to deal with your feelings, but it is not okay to become aggressive when you reach that point. Encourage dialogue rather than outbursts.
5. Do Not Resort to Violence
Disciplining your kids with physical violence is not acceptable as you are setting a benchmark for them by spanking or hitting. They will believe it is okay to resort to it, if necessary to avoid this at all costs.
6. Create a Safe Environment
Instead of stifling the aggressive behaviour, create a nurturing healthy way for your child to express their anger or any negative feelings. Tell them to understand their feelings and where they're coming from and give creative ways to express these emotions. Some of the things they can do instead are to go out and play, paint or pick up a skill.
7. Praise Good Behaviour
Perhaps the most important way to handle an aggressive child is to encourage them when they showcase good behaviour. When they have done something right in a tough situation, praise them and instil in them that non-violence is always the best thing to do.
8. Set Boundaries
When it comes to dealing with an aggressive child, get to the root of the problems and discuss things in a calm and collective manner. Tell them that certain things are unacceptable such as hitting, spitting or kicking and it will be given a ‘time-out’ if things get pushy.
9. Reprimand Immediately
Take swift action such as scolding the child in a stern voice and explaining things to them immediately after an incident occurs. Do not under any circumstances bring up the past and admonish them later for an act that way done a while back.
10. Showcase a United Front
As parents, you must always show yourself as a team when it comes to dealing with bad behaviour. Both parties need to say and do the same thing and give no room for the child to manipulate one parent over another. Be a cool duo when it comes to addressing aggression and also control your own anger in front of them.
Patience and a certain amount of authority are your greatest allies when it comes to handling aggressive children. With time, their attitude will improve, and you will be able to bring about some real changes in their lives.
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Farhan Akhtar Talks About Rape in This Heart-Wrenching Letter To His Elder Daughter
Daddies love their little girls. Your daughter is your husband's princess, the little queen who rules his world and the one he holds closest to his heart. Your daughter reminds your husband of you, the love you both share, and the dreams you have woven together for your children. In today's world, when atrocities against women and societal judgement is at its peak, we fear for our daughters. We want to protect them without restricting them; we want to shield them without clipping their wings. Farhan Akhtar, father to two daughters aged 16 and 9, also experiences these sentiments. He has expressed his thoughts in this heart-wrenching letter to this elder girl...
Farhan Akhtar has always been someone who stands up for what he feels strongly about. He doesn't mince words or hesitate to discuss something just because it is social taboo. In 2013, he launched MARD (Men Against Rape and Discrimination) and has done stellar work in spreading the message of women's rights and equality. This is a message he first practises ar home and makes sure his daughters understand and remember. It has always been difficult for dads to talk to their daughters about topics such as sexuality and social prejudice. But Farhan Akhtar realizes that equality must begin at home. Even if it means having open conversations about everything under the sun, irrespective of gender rules or commonly held beliefs.
In this letter to his elder daughter, he shares his deepest fears and thoughts as the father to a girl. It will leave you feeling numb yet hopeful, overwhelmed yet convinced that a parent's love can make anything happen!
"Dear Daughter,
How do I even start writing to you about sexual violence and rape? My instinct, any father’s instinct, is to protect and nurture, but it is an issue that we must confront and discuss. Let me start, dear child, by quoting from a poem I wrote after the brutal murder of a sprightly lawyer in my team in 2013. You were too young then, only 12, and all I wanted was to see you smile and feel brave and invincible, like you did. The attempted rape and murder was too dark a subject for me to bring up then.
Now, you’re 16 and I can read the questions in your mind. Yes, the same questions that I find myself asking:
What is this country that I live in?
That takes away her right to love
Brutalises her with an iron glove
Rapes her without fear
of there being justice for her tear…
…what do I tell my daughter?
That she’s growing up to be lamb for the slaughter
we’ve got to make a change
Reboot, reformat, rearrange,
and never give in
no matter how much our head may spin
Just keep asking the question
What is this country that I live in?
I know your head spins. I know your young mind grapples with how we treat our women. We’ve tried, as parents should do, of teaching you the importance of equality, of never ever making a distinction between boys and girls, of introducing you to the concept of choice; of even talking to you about ‘good touch’ and ‘bad touch’. We have open conversations. As parents, we’ve told you, if you’re uncomfortable with anyone touching you, that’s a bad touch and you cannot allow it to happen. You should tell that person, I don’t like it. Don’t think that because you’re a kid, someone is allowed to do something to you. I’ve explained to you that if you’re not in the mood for a hug even from me, I should not touch you. The right to your body is yours and yours alone.
I know too, from your Facebook posts, that as you spread your wings to fly into this world, you are troubled and annoyed. Why can’t I wear what I want to wear? Why can’t I pick my identity? Why can’t I be free in the true sense of the word free?
Yes, in Bollywood Yet, as a father, I can’t put my head in the sand because there are certain realities around us. We live in an unsafe, largely unequal world . We have never told you what not to wear or not go out.
You can have blue hair if that’s what you want. You are growing to be a confident, independent and conscious young woman. You’ve spoken to me about the movies our industry makes, about how women are sometimes portrayed as ‘objects’ and I’ve always tried to answer your questions.
It gives me great pleasure to speak with you about women and gender issues. Yes, in Bollywood — and Zoya and I are conscious of crudity and vulgarity — the eye of the camera often goes on overdrive. As an industry, we are guilty of normalising the invasion of a woman’s space, the woman’s body. Those watching our movies think it is ‘normal’ to harass a college or village girl even when the girl is saying she’s not interested. You must also have seen movies in which the entire supporting cast conspires to help the ‘hero’ know the girl he’s interested in. They get together to help him (not her); they block her path wherever she goes. They conspire to bring them face to face, to the point where he’ll hold her, catch her dress, even jump on top of her in some instances.
Such behaviour — which flies in the face of consent that I’ve always tried to talk to you about — has been normalised by movies. Stalking , unfortunately, has become a mutated form of cinematic romance.
As a filmmaker, I need to be wary of such visualisation. We can’t put a blindfold around our eyes and say, I’m doing this for entertainment, or believe that it has no influence on the audiences. Our fans gather around us in the hundreds, even thousands, and they’re there because of our work, because they idolise us, because they’re in love with our screen image. That bestows on us a great sense of responsibility. I too, dear daughter, function in a field where, like you, I’m constantly battling for freedom of speech, of expression, of creative expression.
Rape and sexual harassment have often figured in movies. Earlier, the ‘bad guy’ was always the villain but think about it, the villain who used to be the stalker in college, for example, has now been replaced by the hero. Step back and see and what you’ll realise is that the creep you hated in movies is the one who is ‘getting’ the girl. Worse, the girl ends up believing that he’s stalking her because he loves her and she ends up thinking, ‘he must really love me’.
You and I have always had open conversations. We’ve always understood the importance of communication. I do worry about you when you’re out as any father would do. But like all fathers, I want you to remember that through your journey in life, you have a friend in me. You must always chase your dreams and live your life with freedom. Of course, be safe. You know what safe is. Have your wits about you. Be smart and be in control of yourself.
And as you ask yourself the question, what is this country that I live in, always remember:
I understand you little girl
Your rage, your surprise
Your confusion about the beast in human disguise
I stand with you, little girl, I stand with you
Yours,
Dad"
Source: https://www.hindustantimes.com/
We have only one thing to say, Farhan - we feel for you. We can feel the anxiety and the paranoia you experience for your teenaged daughter. We also feel the ambitions and dreams you have for your girl. But she has a Dad like you to talk to her about subjects that we often hesitate to broach, and to tell her that you will always have her back. She will do you proud, we are sure!
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Q. Hi doctor, I had scan on 33 weeks 2 day, it stated that AC and HC Is <2.3% which is corresponding to 31 weeks. So overall growth of baby avg is 31 week and 2 days.
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Dr Sameer awadhiya
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1 hour ago
A. For the query asked needdhs consultation with doctor for proper guidance so it is better that the doctor will guide you the correct way .
Online consultation can also be taken and the expert will give you the proper answer .
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2 hours ago
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Dr Ghouse
Paediatrician
1 hour ago
A. 5-6 months ok. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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Q. hello dr..I am 39 weeks 3 days pregnant, AFI level 8 is this normal?and normal delivery possible for me? Is the fluid enough for up to 1 week?Do I need a drip? please suggest me.
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A. the levels are on the lower side. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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