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8 Things You Must Have Experienced Only If You Had an Arranged Marriage!
When you are an Indian woman in a traditional family, chances are at some point you've had relatives and parents urging you to look at “this one nice rich boy from a good family” and “consider it”. The “it” being the rest of your life with a stranger! And if you've trusted your parents or a loved one's choice, then here you are married to the chosen love of your life.
While there may have been a roller coaster of emotions, shock, awe, disgust, fear and everything else, now when you look back you can help but giggle right? If you have had an arranged marriage you are one of the many, many Indian women to have gone through these 8 things before finding your soulmate!
1. Being The Topic of Discussion at Every Event
Nina Didi's wedding has only just begun but unfortunately, you are next in line. That meant that every mama, mami, nani, chachi, neighbour wali aunty has whispered to another about any future prospects they may have in mind. Most would have even dared to drag you over to an equally awkward suitable young man during the functions.
2. The Perfect Photo Shoot
Why? Because you must look every bit like the pretty bride you are at every waking moment. “I woke up like this” took on a whole new meaning as you click “oh-so-natural” make-up glad, modest-clothes-wearing pictures that will melt any guy (read: any guy's parents, grandparents, aunties and pet dog's) heart. Brownie points if you are cooking a nice meal like you do every day! Jokes apart, perhaps that photograph caught your hubby’s eye and now he adores you in your actual “I woke up like this” state!
3. Picture...Phone Call...Email...Yes?
You actually began enjoying this accepting/rejecting thing with your girlfriends in tow with planned photo shoots of prospect “Misters” until of course, things have to get awkward. Your parents urge you to pick one guy and “Maybe speak to him, beta?” That nerve-wracking first call. You know your parents will be anticipating fireworks and some major “clicking” to occur when in truth the only click you wanted was the one when the phone call ends! Modern-day chats and emails have of course made this phase a little more bearable; at least he can't cut the awkward silence with a blunt knife this way!
4. Me? Stalker? Never!
You know you did this one! As soon as you saw the picture you liked, you knew you wanted to dig deeper into this guy’s life. After all, you'd rather casual “stumble upon” (read: stalk) pictures of him with his ex-girlfriends before you seal the deal right?
5. The Fear Factor
Usually, arranged marriages can consume you whole during the process! But do you remember the days you suddenly realised what was really happening? That feeling of “Oh my God, I am getting married!” Your hardest decision was no longer which outfit accentuates your waistline better. You didn't know the guy or his family and you felt like it was all a big gamble. Now you probably have a loving husband and a loving family who were all once just strangers to you.
6. Depending On Close Friends for Support
Who better than your friends or siblings to help you make this choice, right? They know you best and they wanted the best for you too; which is why they helped you prepare a list of questions to grill the guy with on your first Rishta meeting.
7. The First Date
When you first set your eyes on him, you found that all that prep went down the drain and the conversations took a turn of their own.
8. The Decision
Bet you remember this one the most. Your first date/ dates weren't like the ones you grew up watching in movies. Yours had a deadline and you had to make that choice and you did. You grew up...just like that...one day! You chose to love this stranger and his family, take on his surname and his well-being suddenly, just like that! You formalised it and it happened all too soon, right? And all for the best!
All said and done, you knew that all of those mixed feelings, apprehensions, moments with your family and questions were so worth it. Arranged marriages may seem scary to someone who didn't choose that route for themselves but you know that you really wouldn't have been where you are in life had this not happened the way it did. You know that the shopping, the preparation, and not to forget, all that pampering, made you feel like the princess you are!
The best part was that in time, you never expected this arranged relationship to turn into your very own love story, one where you were married to someone who takes care of you and does everything to make you happy! The love story that you and your husband will keep writing until the end of time!
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I am a mom of twin boys. I feel every pregnancy is different and unique in their way. I believe it's a beautiful phase of life when everyone pampers you and you are like soaked up in pieces of advice. Everyone wants to share their pregnancy tips or wants you to be safe and take good care of yourself and your baby. In the whole pregnancy phase, we should take care of many things such as our doctor's visit, prenatal tabs, exercises and most importantly, our diet.
We should have at least one glass of milk daily and lots of water. Instead of juices have whole fruits. Avoid fried foods.
In my last trimester, I was in lack of Omega 3, so I had flax seeds powder, and it really helped me, so go for it. We should have small meals throughout the day; it can be six small meals or seven also, it depends on you. In our pregnancy, we tend to have cravings for so many things but better to avoid junkies. Mostly all the gynaecologists do share food chart so follow that.
Add lots of green veggies in your diet like beans, methi, spinach etc. They are a rich source of iron, folate, zinc and many more.
In between your meal make sure you have one fruit.
If you have a sunlight area at your home, do try to sit in sunlight for at least 10-15 minutes daily in your pregnancy. It will take care of the deficiency of vitamin D for you and your baby.
If you are a green tea lover try to avoid green tea, no doubt green tea is immensely beneficial but as it triggers stimulation in the uterus, it can cause preterm labour, and it interferes with absorption of iron and folic acid so better to be safe.
Most importantly stay positive and happy!! Don't let negativity come in your mind!
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Tofu with Stir Fried Veggies
Bring teens into the kitchen with real-meal dishes and give them healthier alternatives to their favourite fast-food versions. This recipe contains ingredients which have to be simply thrown in and sautéd for 5 minutes. Nutritionally, this dish is high in minerals, vitamins and fiber, while being low on cholesterol.
Serves
Preparation Time
Cooking Time
4 People
5-10 Minutes
10-15 Minutes
Ingredients
1/2 tsp sesame oil
1/2 tsp olive oil
1/2 cup chopped asparagus (about 6 spears)
1/2 bell pepper (red or orange), sliced
1/2 cup broccoli florets, chopped
1/2 cup carrots, chopped
4 oz firm tofu (let drain for 5 to 10 minutes before stir-frying), cut into 1/2 inch cubes
1 tbsp low sodium soy sauce
pinch of salt and pepper
Method
Step 1
Take a wok or a large frying pan, and pour sesame and olive oil into it. Keep it on medium-high heat.
Step 2
Add broccoli and carrots and saute for about 4 minutes, or until tender.
Step 3
Remove the broccoli and carrots, and set aside.
Step 4
Next, add asparagus and bell peppers to the same wok and saute for about 3 minutes, or until tender.
Step 5
Add broccoli and carrots back to wok.
Step 6
Add tofu, soy sauce, salt and pepper and saute for an additional 2 to 3 minutes.
Nutritional Information
Calories
56 Kcal
Proteins
3.9 g
Total Fat
2.5 g
Total Carbohydrates
5.5 g
Cholesterol
0 mg
Sodium
174 mg
Potassium
237 mg
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