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Bad Parenting Signs and How They Can Affect Your Child
One of the hardest tasks to achieve is to have a good and consistent parenting style. There are instances of bad parenting that can have lasting consequences on children. Most parents use their own upbringing as a blueprint for parenting, which is not recommended due to evolution of society and social environment. It is proven that certain practices of parenting are more harmful than they are beneficial to your child.
What is Bad Parenting?
Bad parenting is a series of actions that can seriously harm the child’s demeanour and psychology. Bad parenting isn’t restricted to a single act; it is a collection of these acts that are usually what contributes to a harmful effect on the child. Most poor parenting may not be intentional, but this does not reduce it's negative impact on the child. Some parents are not aware of the consequences of these actions and some might not even care. Bad parenting might stem from not knowing enough to be a better parent or from a general lack of apathy to learning the right way.
Bad parenting can have many adverse effects on your child. With our lifestyles being as fast-paced as they are today, it might seem easy to just tell your child what to do. However, you must remember that your child is an individual who requires care and nurturing from you. Make the time to join parenting groups and forums and bring up any issues you might be facing. Have an honest conversation with other parents and listen to any advice they might have. If there are any signs of the effects of poor parenting in your child, it might be best to consult a child psychologist.
Signs Of Bad Parenting
There are several actions and incidences that could make you a bad parent. Here are a few examples of bad parenting that you must avoid at all costs:
1. Reprimanding the Child Excessively
If your child does something wrong and you reprimand or scold him excessively for the mistake, it can have a negative influence on your child. This practice can have a worse effect if your child has displayed honesty and has confessed to making a mistake.
2. Disciplining the Child in Front of Everyone
You might lose your patience and scold, yell, or even hit your child in front of others. This will have a serious impact on your child’s confidence, and the feeling of shame arising from this method of discipline will be hard to shake off.
3. All Advice, No Encouragement
You dispense advice about everything, from brushing teeth to picking the right clothes rather than encouraging your child with support.
4. Withholding Affection
You do not give your child hugs or say ‘I love you’ to your child often. This will make your child feel emotionally disconnected from you.
5. Not Setting Rules
Children need structure and boundaries in order to grow up to be healthy individuals. If the child does not grow with discipline, then he/she will suffer in situations outside the home environment.
6. Lack of Support
Children need support, especially during stressful times like a performance at school or examinations. You could be more concerned about your work, and this might leave your child feeling anxious.
7. Comparing Your Child
You constantly tell your child that he/she should be like other children and emulate their positive traits. This is a sign of bad parenting.
8. Not Proud of His/Her Achievements
You never praise your child for his/her achievements and do not show pride in hard work.
9. Using a Criticising Tone
Using a tone that shows disapproval of all your child’s actions will leave a negative mark on him/her.
10. Not Respecting His/Her Feelings
You do not take the time to have a conversation with your child and understand his/her feelings. When opinions and feelings are disregarded and not addressed in a healthy manner, it could adversely affect kids.
11. Being a Poor Example
Your child will pick up on all your habits and behaviours. You might want to think about why and where your child has picked up a particular behaviour from.
12. Not Giving Him/Her a Choice
You do not give your child a choice and instead expect him/her to do something because you have said so.
13. Too Much Pampering
You might think that your child is the most special child, but for the rest of the world he/she just another child. Making him/her feel entitled could lead to bad behaviour that causes social isolation.
14. Being Overprotective
You protect your child from every imaginable danger out there. This will make your child fearful and afraid of taking any type of risk, from making new friends to trying new activities.
15. Lack of Trust
You do not allow your child to make decisions because you are sure that they will be the wrong choices or you do not believe him/her.
16. Not Giving Your Time
You are always too busy to talk or play with your child or just have no interest to do these things. Being glued to your phone screen while your child is talking to you can make them feel neglected.
Impact Of Bad Parenting On Children
Bad parenting can have a lasting adverse impact on your child in terms of behaviour and psychology. Here are a few effects of bad parenting:
1. Antisocial Behaviours
When your child does not consider how his actions might affect others, it is known as antisocial behaviour. A severe form of this can lead to substance abuse, mental health problems, crime, and poor health. Bad parenting actions like parental drug abuse, domestic violence, and maternal depression usually contribute to this condition. This is also observed in children whose parents displayed critical, negative, and coercive behaviour.
2. Poor Resilience
Children learn how to cope with emotional, mental, and physical trauma from seeing how their parents deal with any hardships themselves. In this case, bad parenting comes in the form of not shielding the child from a crisis or not being able to handle negative emotions, which in turn, rubs off on the child.
3. Depression
Many studies have shown that parents who have a negative approach will have children with a higher susceptibility to depression. Bad parenting actions that lead to depression include low levels of emotional and physical support, physical punishment, and an unhealthy expression of negative emotions.
4. Aggression
Many studies have shown that kindergarteners who have explosive anger issues usually have a poor relationship with their mothers. Negative parenting techniques like rough handling and expressing negative emotions towards the child during infancy will cause the child to have high levels of anger.
5. Lack of Empathy
If the child is treated with indifference at home, then chances are high that he/she will behave the same with others outside.
6. Difficulty with Relationships
Parents who do not help the child express their emotions in a healthy manner will find that their children are unable to maintain friendships. Bad parenting also could cause the child to question trust and develop low self-confidence.
How to Be a Good Parent?
One of the biggest steps you can take is admitting that you have a few bad parenting techniques. You can always learn new ways to overcome these shortcomings. Here are a few tips on being a good parent:
1. Hands-on Parenting
Get involved with your child’s life and take it upon yourself to teach your child some of life’s most important lessons. Focus your energy on building an emotional rapport with your child.
2. Do Not Shout at Your Child
Instead of shouting at or scolding children, try to calmly reason with them. Give them a time-out if they're being difficult and then sit down and listen to why they were upset in the first place. If it has to do with school, then calmly ask your child to explain the difficulties he/she is facing. Explain to your child why his/her actions are wrong and the larger consequences of those actions.
3. Give Reasons
If you want your child to do something, then explain to him/her the reasons behind your request. If you want him/her to finish school work before going out to play, then explain the reasons behind it. A great way to explain it would be to say that the second he/she finishes, play time begins. This also works as motivation.
4. Set Rules
Structure is important for your child’s development. However, whatever new rules you do put in place, do make sure to discuss the same with your child. In case you want your child to take up a chore around the house, then have a discussion with him/her about which chore he/she would like to do and to what degree you want that chore to be done. Ask your child to set up a schedule for this new chore. Sticking to this new schedule will boost self-esteem.
5. Give Your Child Choices
Talk to your child about the different options he/she might have. It can be something small like deciding if he/she wants to go to the park with you the next day. Allowing your child to make choices will boost confidence in making decisions.
6. Listen
One of the most important aspects of parenting is listening to your child. Even if what your child says seems mundane to you, you must listen, as it might be something important to him/her.
7. Be a Good Example
Children are known to pick up habits and actions from the people around them. As a parent, your child will be looking up to you for advice on almost everything, particularly in the younger years. Practice healthy habits and your child is bound to pick them up himself/herself.
8. Don’t Raise Your Hand
You’ll encounter numerous times during your parenting journey, when your child may misbehave or disobey to a large extent, making you lose your patience. However, take a deep breath and count before you raise your hand on him/her. Physical violence can have serious psychological effects on the child, affecting development. In turn, this causes children to emulate the same behaviour when they become parents/
9. Inculcate Reward and Punishment
Reward and Punishment is by far, the best way to discipline a child. Reward good behaviour and punishing bad behaviour sets a touchstone to the child on which behaviour to follow and which to avoid. Make sure to set punishments that are non-physical.
10. Don’t Suffocate Your Child
Rather than being too controlling and constantly hovering around your child’s every step, give them some element of freedom. If they know the consequences of bad behaviour, they are likely to misuse the freedom they’ve been given.
Bad parenting is not just harmful to your child at the moment, but will definitely have a lasting negative impact on your child for years to come, which could stay on, even as an adult. Remember that parenting is not just about imparting wisdom to your child, but about allowing them to grow and find their own lifestyles. This includes raising them to be responsible for their actions and accepting responsibility for the decisions they make and the actions they take. How you decide to impart the knowledge and teach them about responsibility can be the key element to raising your child. This should not be forced onto them in any manner. Talk to child psychologists to learn how to communicate with your child. It is recommended that as a parent, both your partner and you attend parenting seminars, talk to counsello8 and work out a manner in which to develop and navigate through your parenting philosophy.
Coming up with a parenting philosophy can be a challenge due to the numerous hurdles in both faith and conscience that you will face. Remember that the past generations of parenting are not just to be followed blindly but to be used as a platform to evolve from. In the past hitting your child was acceptable, but research shows physical intimidation does more harm than good when it comes to raising your child. Establishing mutual respect and a line of open communication is important, so is allowing your child to make mistakes and encouraging them to recover from their failures. A point every parent must remember is not to overwhelm the child with restrictions. Letting your child grow while having fun and being social has numerous benefits to their mental health.
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Belly Mapping - How To Tell Your Baby's Position
The final position of the unborn baby before childbirth can affect the labour and delivery of the mother-to-be. The best position for the baby to be in before delivery is with her head down, facing your back. Women can find out in which position the baby is by using a technique called belly mapping.
What Is Belly Mapping?
Belly mapping is the process of determining your baby’s birthing position at the beginning of the third trimester. This is done by touching the abdomen and predicting the baby’s position based on the movements felt by the mother-to-be. This belly mapping procedure was pioneered by a woman named Gail Tully in the 1970s.
What Does Baby Position Mean?
The unborn baby keeps changing position inside the womb as she grows. Before childbirth, the baby gets into a position that is ideal for natural childbirth. This is called the occipito-anterior position. In this position, the baby’s head is downwards near the cervix, and she faces your back. Her back is against your belly. This makes it easy to push the baby through the birth canal during labour. The baby may be in different positions inside the womb. Some of these are:
1. Head Downwards
Around 48 to 49 babies out of 50 will be in the head down position at 37 weeks of pregnancy just before childbirth. The baby may even turn to the head down position after labour starts. The head down position is when the baby’s head is facing the birth canal.
2. Breeched
The breech position is not an ideal position for childbirth as the baby’s head faces upwards and the baby’s bottom or feet face downwards. There different types of breech positions include cross-legged, bottom downwards, and feet first. If during belly mapping, the breech position is found, the mom-to-be can try stimulating the baby to turn around with certain exercises.
3. Anterior
Anterior position is when the baby is facing the mother’s back, and the baby’s back is against the mom’s belly. If during belly mapping, anterior head downward position is found, it means the baby is in the correct position for a normal delivery.
4. Posterior
The posterior position is when the baby is facing the mother’s belly, and the baby’s back is facing the mother’s back. This position is quite common, but not ideal for normal delivery. If during belly mapping, posterior position is found, the mothers can try exercises to prompt the baby to turn around.
When to Do Belly Mapping?
Belly mapping should be done in the third trimester after 30 weeks of pregnancy. It should be done after a doctor’s appointment. This way, you can learn from the doctor about where the baby’s head is and how she is positioned.
Steps to Do Belly Mapping
Here are measures you can take to determine your baby’s position:
Gather The Materials: You will need a flat couch or bed to lie on, a large sheet of paper and pen or pencil. You can also draw the baby’s position on the skin of your pregnant belly, for which you need non-toxic paints or markers.
Find The Baby’s Head: Lie flat on your back or in a partly reclined position. Take deep breaths and relax. Place pressure very gently on the upper pelvic area above the pubic bone with your fingertips. If you feel something hard and round, it is the baby’s head. If you feel something round and soft, it could be the baby’s bottom. If you have felt hiccups in your lower abdomen, it means the baby’s head is downwards. You can try to pinpoint the location of the head using the direction of the baby’s movements. Strong kicks and rolls are from the legs and knees, but light fluttering movements are hands or fingers. Once you locate the head, mark it on your belly with the marker or on paper.
Locate The Baby’s Back: Next, try to find the baby’s back. If you move your hands upwards from the baby’s head. If you can feel a smooth, hard mass, this is the baby’s back. If you cannot locate the back, it could be because the baby is in a posterior position where the baby’s back is facing your back.
Mark The Position on Paper or Your Skin: Next, draw a large circle on the paper or on your belly. Divide it into four quadrants to help you figure out the baby’s position more easily. Mark the head and back.
Use a Prop Doll: Use a baby doll to mirror the position of the baby’s head and back to figure out where the hands and feet are. Use the force and direction of the baby’s movements to locate the position of the hands and feet. Once done, mark this also on your belly or on the paper to give you the baby’s position.
Tips to Get Your Baby out of An Inappropriate Position
Make sure to check with your doctor before doing any of these exercises. Here are some simple exercises that you can try doing to stimulate the baby to turn into the ideal birthing position:
Pelvic Rocks: This should be done when you feel the baby move. Get down on all fours (your hands and knees) and rock back and forth for five minutes. You can repeat this thrice a day. This may prompt the baby to roll over to the head down, anterior position.
Butterfly: Sit on the floor. Your bottom should touch the floor. Now position your feet to align the soles as they touch each other. Lift your knees and thighs up and down a few times like the fluttering wings of a butterfly. This is good for your lower back and pelvis. It could prompt the baby to change position.
Walking and Squats: Walking is good for you and the baby. It helps to pull the baby downwards by creating a rocking movement and by using gravitational force. Squats help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles which are crucial for pushing during labour. Squats also open up the pelvis to give the baby more space to descend into the head downward position.
Exercise Ball: Sitting on an exercise ball will help strengthen your pelvis and core muscles. Sit on the ball with the hips higher than the knees.
Forward Leaning: Forward-leaning inversion can help stimulate the baby to turn over to the occipito-anterior position that is ideal for childbirth. Kneel on a couch and lower your arms to the floor such that your hands are touching the floor and your head hangs downwards. Raise your bottom high and flatten your back. Remain like this and then rise up.
What Will Happen if Your Baby Is in The Wrong Position?
Using belly mapping in pregnancy, you can find your baby’s birthing position and take steps to correct it if the baby is not in an optimal birthing position. There are complications associated with giving birth to babies that are in posterior or breech position. Mothers who deliver posterior babies may have a longer labour and may experience tearing of the perineum during delivery. The perineum is a skinny membrane separating the vagina and anus. Mothers may also be at higher risk of heavy postpartum bleeding and have assisted vaginal delivery or an emergency C-section. Babies born face-up may have to spend some time in the neonatal intensive care. Breech babies are usually delivered through C-section as they cannot pass through the birth canal if they are bottom first or cross-legged.
Belly mapping is a simple process to determine your baby’s birthing position. Taking steps to prompt your baby to get into the optimal birthing position will help you have a smooth labour and a natural delivery. Make sure to ask your doctor before doing any of the exercises mentioned in this article.
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World Heart Day - History and Significance
With the world becoming more aware of lifestyle diseases, there has been a significant change in the perception of your heart’s health. From healthcare professionals to food industry leaders, the focus and direction towards heart disease have turned towards preventive care.
When and Why Is World Heart Day Celebrated?
September 29 - World Heart Day - was set up by the World Heart Federation (WHF) as an international campaign to spread awareness about cardiovascular diseases (CVD) and their prevention. Heart disease, along with strokes, is responsible for over half of all non-communicable diseases in the world today. This makes CVD the number one killer. World Heart Day is aimed at bringing attention to cardiovascular disease and the range of associated health issues.
History of World Heart Day
Word Heart Day was established by the World Heart Federation in conjunction with the World Health Organisation (WHO) by the chairman of the WHF in 1999. It was celebrated for the first time in 2000. Initially, World Heart Day fell on the last Sunday of September, but it was later changed to the 29th of September.
How Is International Heart Day Celebrated Around the World?
While International Heart Day is not a public holiday, thanks to the efforts of the WHO and WHF, several events and activities are planned across the world with the objective of increasing the awareness of heart illness and its prevention. Governments and NGOs in different countries arrange activities that include runs, talks, concerts, plays, and sporting events. The WHF also organises awareness events in over 100 countries. These include:
Health checkups
Fitness events
Sports events
Public talks
Concerts
Stage shows
Exhibitions
World Heart Day Themes of Past Decade
The WHF initiated National Heart Day in over 100 countries with the aim of reducing the number of premature deaths due to heart illness by 25% by 2025. With this aim, they have organised World Heart Day with specific themes for each year. The theme for each year in the past decade has been:
How Young Is Your Heart? – 2006
Team up for Healthy Hearts – 2007
Know Your Risk – 2008
I Work With Heart – 2009
I Work With Heart – 2010
One World, One Heart, and One Home – 2011
One World, One Heart, and One Home – 2012
Take the Road to a Healthy Heart – 2013
Heart Choices NOT Hard Choices – 2014
Creating Heart-healthy Environments – 2015
Light Your Heart, Empower Your Life – 2016
Share the Power – 2017
My Heart, Your Heart – 2018
World Heart Day Quotes
More people are becoming aware of heart health, not least due to the involvement of celebrities and health care organisations. Here are a few quotes attributed to World Heart Day and heart health.
“We’re in a situation now where weight and extreme weight and heart disease is the biggest killer in this country today.” – Jamie Oliver
“With all of the holiday cheer in the air, it’s easy to overlook the ingredients in the foods. Ingredients such as salt, sugar, and fat – all of which leads to diseases such as high blood pressure, diabetes, strokes, heart disease, and cancer.” – Lee Haney
“I’m giving life lessons and tips on how to take care of your emotional heart, because heart disease is the number-one killer in America.” – Leeza Gibbons
“I saw many people who had advanced heart disease and I was so frustrated because I knew if they just knew how to do the right thing, simple lifestyle and diet steps, that the entire trajectory of their life and health would have been different.” – Mehmet Oz
“Seeds and nuts are indispensable for cardiovascular health. The protective properties of nuts against coronary heart disease were first recognised in the early 1990s, and a strong body of literature has followed, confirming these original findings.” – Joel Fuhrman
“The most important thing in illness is never to lose heart.” – Nikolai Lenin
“Think about it: heart disease and diabetes, which account for more deaths in the U.S. and worldwide than everything else combined, are completely preventable by making comprehensive lifestyle changes. Without drugs or surgery.” – Dean Ornish
“The medical literature tells us that the most effective ways to reduce the risk of heart disease, cancer, stroke, diabetes, Alzheimer’s, and many more problems are through healthy diet and exercise. Our bodies have evolved to move, yet we now use the energy in oil instead of muscles to do our work.” – David Suzuki
“I got into being vegan because I was simply looking to benefit from being more compassionate. I have since come to learn that it is an animal-based diet that is responsible for the overwhelming majority of cases of cancer, heart disease, diabetes, obesity, multiple sclerosis, and all kinds of other problems.” – Steve-O
“Millions of Americans today are taking dietary supplements, practising yoga and integrating other natural therapies into their lives. These are all preventive measures that will keep them out of the doctor’s office and drive down the costs of treating serious problems like heart disease and diabetes.” – Andrew Weil
As with most lifestyle diseases, heart disease is also hugely preventable. Small and simple changes to your lifestyle will result in exponential benefits to your heart. Even if we have a genetic disposition towards heart disease, the onset of the disease can be thwarted with good lifestyle changes. A healthy diet with low salt, sugar, and unhealthy fats combined with regular exercise will go a long way towards combating cardiovascular diseases.
The efforts of the World Heart Federation and the WHO have seen an increased awareness in the general population. People are now more aware of the risks of packaged food, unhealthy diets, and a lack of exercise. However, there is still much to be done in terms of reaching people who do not have the luxury or time of making home cooked meals every day. Food corporations who make packaged food or run fast food chains also have to be brought under international regulations in order to ensure that the public receives the right nutrition.
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