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Excessive Blinking of Eyes in Children
It is difficult for parents with little medical knowledge to identify health issues their child may be facing. While the symptoms of fever and cough are easily noticeable, the same cannot be said for excessive blinking.
What Is Excessive Eye Blinking?
Blinking is how our eyes protect themselves from the strain. A child blinks 3 - 17 times per minute on an average. Anything beyond this is considered excessive blinking and could be a sign of discomfort or an eye problem. Excessive blinking can be due to a range of reasons – anything from a facial tic to extreme dryness in the eyes.
Causes of Excessive Eye Blinking
Your child may be blinking excessively due to:
Tics
Facial tics can cause excessive blinking. Tics are muscle spasms that affect the muscles in and around the eyes. Short-tempered children are prone to facial tics. If this is the case, talk to a child psychologist about your child's behaviour.
Near-Sightedness
A common reason for excessive blinking is near-sightedness. Visit an eye specialist and get your child’s eye checked.
Allergy
If your child is blinking too much, has watery eyes or excessive discharge around the eyes, it could be an allergy.
Dryness
When your child suffers from extremely dry eyes, she may develop excessive blinking and burning/itchy eyes. Make sure your child doesn’t rub her eyes if this is the case. Doctors usually prescribe teardrops or hydrating eye drops to help ease the irritation.
Strain
Eye strain can cause excessive blinking. Reading in low light, too much time spent looking at a screen and lack of sleep can cause strain.
OCD
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a psychological condition that affects many children but often goes undiagnosed. This psychological condition can also cause excessive blinking or facial tics.
Blepharitis
Blepharitis is a bacterial infection in the eyelids. It is one of the causes of excessive blinking in children.
Diagnosis of Excessive Eye Blinking
Most conditions that lead to excessive blinking can be diagnosed through a routine physical examination. If the reason is an imbalance of power, your child may need glasses. In case it’s a psychological issue, your child may need to visit a therapist for regular sessions.
Treatment for Excessive Eye Blinking
There are a number of ways to treat excessive blinking eyes in children. Based on the diagnosis, the different treatment options include:
Hydrating and anti-inflammatory eye drops
Glasses
Psychological therapy
Antihistamines
For more treatment plans and information, contact an ophthalmologist.
How To Prevent Your Kid From Excessive Blinking
Here are some tips you should consider:
Protect Her Eyes
Using protective eyewear will guard your child's eyes against dust, sunlight and other irritants.
Prevent Dry Eyes
Foods containing Omega-3 fatty acids help to prevent dryness in the eyes by stimulating the tear glands and reducing inflammation.
Manage Stress
Help your child manage academic stress with activities like meditation, relaxation techniques and yoga.
Adopt a Healthy Diet and Lifestyle
Make your child eat nutritious food, and drink plenty of water. This will help to maintain her eye health.
Keep Her Eyes Clean
Tell your child to wash her eyes frequently with clean water, especially when she has come from outside.
Pay Attention to the Lighting
Ensure your child always reads, watches TV or works on a computer in a well-lighted room.
Let Her Get Adequate Rest
Ensure your child sleeps for 8-10 hours a day.
Monitor Her Screen Time
Monitor the time your child spends watching TV or your mobile.
Allow Her to Play
Make sure she gets some exercise.
What Are the Warning Signs?
Excessive blinking in children is not fatal. If you spot these signs, take your child to a doctor immediately:
Your child rubs her eyes frequently.
She struggles to open her eyes after waking up in the morning.
She squints her eyes to read something within arm’s length.
Her eyes are often red.
Your child blinks more than 17 times per minute.
Your child loses her temper frequently.
She tends to panic and can’t sit still if everything in the room isn't organised.
Children should undergo an eye exam every 3-4 months. If your child wears glasses, visit your eye specialist and get a new pair every 3 months.
Don't panic if you notice excessive blinking in your child. Whether it's mild or severe, follow your paediatrician’s instructions and monitor your child closely for changes. You should neither self-medicate nor attempt to diagnose her by yourself. Don't miss the doctor’s appointments and follow their instructions to the T.
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Pelvic Girdle Pain (PGP) During Pregnancy: Causes, Symptoms, And Treatment
Pelvic girdle pain (PGP) during pregnancy is not uncommon. If you are pregnant, this is something you must know about. PGP can begin as early as the first trimester or as late as just a few days before delivery.
PGP in early pregnancy can be due to the fact that your baby’s head is moving down the pelvis, a term known as ‘engaging’. PGP starts in pregnancy, but you might feel the pain even after giving birth, and if you are lucky, you will not experience the pain at all. However, if you do, then knowing about the causes, symptoms and treatment will surely be helpful. Read on to know more.
What Is Pelvic Girdle Pain (PGP)?
The pelvis is the area in your body where both your hip bones are located. On the front, the hip bones are joined by the pubis symphysis which is a very stiff joint. At the back, they are attached to the sacrum bone. A network of strong ligaments keeps these bones in place.
Pelvic girdle pain is an umbrella term that is used to describe pain in the joints of the pelvis, and this includes:
Joints connecting to the sacrum, or triangular bone that is present at the back, between the hip bones of your pelvis.
Symphysis pubis joint, which is the joint connecting the two halves of your pelvis in the front. This is known as symphysis pubis dysfunction or SPD.
What Happens To Your Pelvis During Pregnancy?
During delivery, your baby needs to pass through the birth canal which is located in the pelvis. A hormone named relaxin is secreted when you are pregnant and helps make the pelvic ligaments soft. The ligaments are thus able to stretch so that the baby can move out comfortably. This is why your pelvic joint moves more when you are pregnant and after you have given birth. While relaxin is secreted in both pregnant and non-pregnant women, the secretion increases during pregnancy and it continues to rise throughout the first trimester. After a steady increase in the initial stage of pregnancy, the secretion of relaxin rises again during the final weeks.
Hormonal influence sometimes relaxes the connecting bones and ligaments leading to a gap of as much as 9 mm between the pelvic bones- a condition known as diastasis symphysis pubis (DSP). However, DSP in pregnancy is not necessarily the cause of PGP. Your muscles and nerves are able to cope and adapt to the greater flexibility of your pelvic girdle. As a result, your body copes well with the changes that your posture undergoes as the baby grows inside the womb.
Causes Of Pelvic Pain During Pregnancy
A combination of factors is responsible for pelvic girdle pain during pregnancy. Some of them are:
Changes in the way your muscles work in order to support your girdle
Uneven movements of the joints in your pelvis
One of the joints not working smoothly, and causing stress to the other joints of your pelvic girdle
Generally, when you are walking, sitting, standing up, or lying down, your pelvis is in a stable or locked position. When you are pregnant, there are times when you have to do these activities with an unlocked or less stable pelvis and this is what causes the pain.
This results in swelling of the joints, which is the primary cause of PGP.
More than half of all pregnant women suffer from pelvic girdle pain or pain in the back.
Though pelvic girdle pain is common during pregnancy, it is not something which should be accepted as normal. It is important that you do not ignore this pain and it is best if you consult a doctor. The pain can get worse if you leave it untreated.
Signs & Symptoms Of PGP/SPD
The location and the intensity of pain usually differs from one woman to another. You may experience the pain on just one side or the pain may jump from one side to another. The pain may also shoot to the back of your legs or buttocks. PGP can easily be confused with sciatica as many of the symptoms are the same.
The symptoms of PGP and SPD include pain in:
The symphysis pubis joint
The lower back
The sacroiliac joints at the back
At the back and front of the thigh
The groin area
Around the hips
The pelvic floor and around your anal and vaginal openings
The pain usually gets worse if you do not take proper measures. Certain activities which you might consider restful can also make the pain worse. Lying down and turning over on your bed, and even some sex positions can become painful because of PGP. Standing or sitting for a long time can also elevate the pain. The symptoms are usually worse during the night.
Pelvic girdle pain can lead to other issues which may make your pregnancy a difficult journey. The constant pain may sometimes make you resent the cause, and you may experience emotional symptoms like depression, sadness, isolation, frustration, guilt, and anger.
Types Of Pain You Can Feel With Pelvic Girdle Pain
PGP is a wide term which covers various categories of pain. These include:
Diastasis of the Symphysis Pubis (DSP): This is pain caused when the pubic bones, which are normally joined, are separated causing an abnormally large gap
Pelvic Joint Syndrome: This is caused by the pain caused by the abnormal movement of the pelvic joint
Posterior Pelvic Pain: This pain is similar to the pelvic joint pain. It radiates to the back of the thigh from the buttocks
Here are some of the detailed explanations of the different pains that could occur:
Pelvic Arthropathy: This joint disease causes pain and can limit your mobility.
Symphysiolysis: This involves the slipping or the separation of the symphysis (cartilaginous joint between two bones).
Inferior Pubic Shear / Superior Pubic Shear / Symphyseal Shear: This involves the dysfunction of one of your pubic bones.
Osteitis pubis (usually postpartum): This happens when the pubis symphysis and the surrounding muscles get inflamed.
Hypermobility: You will be able to move your joints easily beyond the normal range.
Sacroiliitis: This involves the inflammation and pain in the sacroiliitis joint (where the pelvis and lower spine connect)
Symphysis pubis dysfunction (SPD): Involves excessive movement of the pubis along with pain.
Physiological Pelvic Girdle Relaxation: Ligament relaxation that causes too much pain during pregnancy.
Why Is The Pelvic Position Important In Pregnancy?
A strong pelvis will always aid in your pregnancy and make the delivery less painful for you. Pregnancy puts a lot of stress on your pelvic floor and it tends to become weaker before the baby is born. It also becomes stretched. Doctors recommend pelvic floor exercises so that it doesn’t become weak. Strong muscles will support your baby’s weight and help in healing the muscle between your anus and vagina, after delivery.
The pelvis is one of the most crucial body parts that will be stressed during child birth. It is crucial that it is taken care of and not stressed too much as any complications could cause severe pain later on.
Who is Most at Risk?
Women in the later stages of pregnancy are at a higher risk for PGP. The risk of PGP increase in the following cases:
You have a history of lower back pain.
You have experienced PGP in a previous pregnancy.
Diagnosis Of PGP
If you are experiencing any pain in and around your pelvic region, it is advisable to visit a doctor. Do also talk to your doctor if you experience acute lower back pain. The doctor will examine you and ask questions to know where exactly the pain is originating. Make sure you know what kind of movements or activities are inducing the pain so that you are able to provide all information that your doctor needs for an accurate diagnosis.
PGP is often thought to be sciatica, even by the doctors. You can get yourself checked by physiotherapists as well, just to be sure. However, the physiotherapist should be someone who has experience with pregnant women.
Treatment Of Pelvic Pain In Pregnancy
Treatment for pelvic pain in pregnancy is not difficult. There are many things that you can do yourself to reduce the pain. Certain lifestyle changes and regular exercise can go a long way in treating PGP and making your pregnancy better.
Here are some ways to get relief from pelvic pain during pregnancy:
Ask your doctor to show you how to lock your pelvis while walking, standing up, or other performing other activities which are painful for you. By being a little careful while doing your daily activities, you can ease the pain.
If the intensity of the pain is too high, your doctor will give you a pelvic support belt.
Specific exercises meant for the pelvic floor and tummy can be helpful too.
Aquanatal classes are also recommended, and involve exercising in water. This can provide relief to some extent. However, make sure that the class you join is conducted for pregnant women.
Acupuncture is also known to offer great relief. However, before you book an appointment, do make sure that the acupuncturist is experienced in treating PGP in pregnant women.If nothing of this helps, your doctor will most likely give painkillers like paracetamol.
Does PGP Affect My Labour?
Ideally, PGP should not affect your labour in any way. If you are apprehensive, here a few positions you can try:
Try sitting upright or try the kneeling position during delivery
Avoid lying down on your bed with your back at the time of your delivery
Enlist your doctor’s help to identify the correct positions to ensure that the delivery is less painful and easier for you.
Giving Birth With Pelvic Girdle Pain
Pelvic girdle pain can make it difficult for you to open your legs, and if you are facing this issue, talk to your doctor to know which will be the best position for you. You might even need an assisted birth if the pain is severe. If most of the positions are painful for you, your doctor will opt for epidural to make the entire process as comfortable as possible.
Your doctor will offer a caesarean section if you are in severe pain and movement is a problem for you. This is, however, the last option available. The Caesarean section does not really help with PGP symptoms. In fact, it can make it more difficult for you to recover from PGP after giving birth.
Help & Support
It is important that you have people around you when you are pregnant, and more so when you are experiencing pelvic girdle pain. You will need to rest more and you will also need to do less of the household chores. Having people to help you will make your journey easier.
If you are experiencing PGP, here are some of the things that you can do to ease the delivery process:
Avoid Painful Activities
Avoid all kinds of activities that increase the pain as it will usually take a very long time for the pain to settle down. Do not sit on the floor and avoid sitting cross-legged as well. Ask people around to help with the household chores.
While you may not feel the pain initially, it may start much later during the day or when you go to bed.
Ample Rest
Taking rest at regular intervals is important. Sight upright and make sure your back is arched and well-supported. Lying down on one side will help as well.
Proper Turns
Turning on the bed may become difficult with time. Try and sit up directly from lying down on your back. This will ease the pain to some extent. However, as the bump grows, this will become difficult to do. Before moving, tighten your lower tummy muscles, pelvic floor, and arch your back.
Walk With An Arched Back
Arch your back while walking and swing your arms. This helps in locking the pelvis in a stable position and makes the pelvic joints stiff.
Maintain A Correct Posture
Whether you are sitting or standing, make sure to maintain the right posture. Do not sit slumped or lie on your back with your legs at the same level. Whenever you have to lie down on your back, make sure that you have a rolled towel to support your back. You can also place a side pillow in between your legs and sleep sideways. In fact, this is something that you will find comfortable. This helps to keep your hips aligned.
Sleep On A Soft Mattress
Sleeping on a soft surface can offer temporary SPD pain relief. Just place a soft quilt or duvet below the bed sheet.
Some of the other things that you need to keep in mind are:
Do not lift heavy weights and objects
While wearing a pair of bottoms do not try and put your legs inside while standing. Sit down and then pull the clothing towards you
Do pelvic floor and lower abdominal exercises to strengthen your back
If you have experienced PGP in one pregnancy, chances are that you will experience it when you get pregnant again. However, it will not be as bad as the first time, as you already know what needs to done to reduce the symptoms. If you have suffered from PGP in one pregnancy, it is advisable to wait for a few years before the second one. If you are overweight, consider losing weight as excess weight puts pressure on your pelvis. Exercise regularly to increase your flexibility and to stay fit.
All these measures will help manage PGP efficiently and are sure to reduce your discomfort during delivery. Read more
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Newborn Vaccinations at 2 months - A Complete List
The best way to protect your baby from life-threatening diseases is through vaccination. Vaccines work by introducing foreign invaders such as bacteria or viruses into the body – but only enough to trigger the immune cells and not make your child sick! Your baby needs different vaccines as he grows up. Check out the list for two months right here…
Before you get your baby vaccinated, make sure you follow a few precautions. If your baby is severely ill on the scheduled day, ask to come back at a later date. A mild fever or cold is usually not a problem; your doctor will advise you on this. You also need to check for reactions to the vaccine– if your child has had an allergic reaction to a vaccine before, discuss this in-depth with the medical professional.
Here is the complete list of vaccines your baby is due for at two months of age
1. DTaP/DTwP
This vaccine protects your baby from diphtheria, tetanus and pertussis. These are common childhood ailments that, if not prevented, can bring on fatal conditions like heart failure, pneumonia and stiffness of the jaw.
Total Doses: 5 | Next Dose: 4 months
2. Hib
This vaccine targets Haemophilus Influenzae which usually manifests itself in the form of fever, headache, cough, stiff neck and breathing problems. In severe cases, it can even lead to meningitis and pneumonia – both life-threatening in babies!
Total Doses: 3 | Next Dose: 6-18 months
3. Rotavirus
This is a very important vaccine for your baby as it helps protect against rotavirus - the leading cause of diarrhoea in babies. Rotavirus can be very dangerous for your infant as it leads to severe dehydration.
Total Doses: 3 | Next Dose: 4 months
4. IPV
This the injectable polio vaccine which has taken the world by storm! Polio, once a debilitating condition leading to permanent paralysis, has now been eradicated in India.
Total Doses: 4 | Next Dose: 4 months
5. Hep B
The Hepatitis B vaccine saves your child from the distressing effects of the disease, including include tiredness, diarrhoea, jaundice, and possibly even liver damage.
Total Doses: 3 | Next Dose: 6-18 months
6. PCV
The Pneumococcal Conjugate Vaccine is an optional vaccine for your baby and is also an expensive one. However, it prevents pneumonia and meningitis – potentially fatal illnesses in babies! You can have a discussion with your paediatrician to discuss this.
Has your doctor prescribed fewer vaccines than mentioned in this list? Some doctors prefer combination vaccines or several vaccines in the same shot. Rest assured, they are completely safe and will mean that your baby has to go through fewer shots! Read more
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How to Use a Tampon and 5 Mistakes You Don't Want to Make
Sanitary pads have remained the best period buddy for many women. But changing lifestyles, fashion needs and personal choices have made tampons grow in popularity. As with all female sanitary products, there are certain dos and don'ts while learning how to use tampons.
The tampon vs. pad debate has been long-running and will continue to be so. Instead of arguing about it, let's just take a look at tampons and learn to use them correctly. While pads are still hugely popular, tampons are the answer for many who want to wear form-fitting dresses and don’t like the mess of pads.
What Is a Tampon and How Do You Use it?
A tampon is an absorbent plug inserted into the vagina to absorb menstrual blood. Made of cotton and attached with a string, tampons commonly come with applicators for ease of insertion. Even without an applicator, they aren't very complicated. They just take some getting used to.
Tampons are easy to use - you take one and slowly insert it into the vagina with a part of the string hanging out. It can be done in a sitting or standing position. For first-timers, small tampons are advisable. Switch to a larger size when you become comfortable. Stay calm while inserting a tampon otherwise your vaginal muscles will contract and make it difficult to put in. As for how far to insert a tampon, take it as far up as you feel absolutely comfortable without the irritation of something being inside. Yes, you can shower with a tampon in and use it while swimming.
Understanding Tampon Issues
Being products of intimate usage, misconceptions and myths about tampons abound. Once you know the outweighing pros, buying sanitary pads will be history. Common tampon problems occur because of incorrect usage and carelessness. Choose the ones with absorbency that suits your flow. Don’t leave them in for more than eight hours as that exposes you to the risk of toxic shock syndrome (TSS), a rare and dangerous bacterial condition. Change them within four-six hours even with light flow.
Common Mistakes People Make When Using Tampons
Some women pick tampons with very high absorbency, but with a light to medium flow, look for regular ones. Variants with high absorbency can leave you prone to TSS.
Some women get an uneasy feeling while wearing tampons, usually due to wrong placement. You want to insert it deep and position it right to stay snug.
Never use tampons from tampered packaging as they could cause infection. Remember, they’re going inside your body and must be hygienic.
Tampons lose their popularity when it comes to overnight usage. Since they must be changed faster, leaving them in for long can be risky and messy! Reach for maxi pads overnight.
Hygiene is crucial during your menstrual cycle. Wash your hands before and after inserting a tampon and never flush used tampons into the toilet. You should dispose it properly- wrapping it in old newspaper and tossing it into the trash.
There are many pro-tampon arguments and usage instructions available. Give them a try on your next menstrual cycle and see how well they serve you! Read more
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Peanut Salad
This yummy salad packs in a powerful punch of nutrition and tastes really good. It's an easy to prepare recipe where you just have to throw in the ingredients and you're done. Eat it directly from the mixing bowl or have it at a sit-down-dinner, it's versatile enough for both!
Serves
Preparation Time
Cooking Time
2 People
10-15 Minutes
5-10 Minutes
Ingredients
1/2 cup peanuts
10-12 almonds soaked in water
1 teaspoon olive oil
1/4 teaspoon cumin seeds
1/4 teaspoon mustard seeds
1 teaspoon chopped green chilies
1/4 cup chopped spring onion
5 black dates chopped
2 tbsps chicken pieces, cooked and shredded
2 tablespoon chopped fresh coriander leaves
1/2 teaspoon lemon juice
1 teaspoon roasted cumin seed powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
Method
Step 1
Soak the peanuts in water for 2-3 hours and then boil them for 5 minutes and strain the extra water.
Step 2
Peel the almonds and slice them.
Step 3
Heat the oil, add cumin seeds and mustard seeds./li>
Step 4
Now add chopped green chilies and saute this for a few seconds.
Step 5
Pour this over the boiled peanuts and combine sliced almonds, shredded chicken pieces and the remaining ingredients.
Step 6
Mix well, cover and chill for at least two hours.
Step 7
Garnish with coriander leaves and serve.
Nutritional Information
Calories
200 K cal
Proteins
5.7 g
Total Fat
11.8 g
Total Carbohydrates
20.8 g
Cholesterol
0 mg
Sodium
4 mg
Potassium
237 mg
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