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Q. Can I check baby heartbeat in 9th week of pregancy?
Rashmi
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A. See that can only be monitored with a proper ultrasound or a machine which can check the heartbeat of the child otherwise there is no third way to figure it out further if you need to know more you can get a sonography done with your gynaecologist to have better clarity
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12 Signs Of A Happy Marriage
Every relationship no matter how amazing, goes through period of doubt, anger, pain and frustration. Here are some signs of a healthy relationship, so that you can figure out if you are in one!
If you’ve been married, are married or in a relationship, you’d know that Maroon 5 was right when they said “It’s not always rainbows and butterflies. It’s compromise that moves us along”
Marriage is more about playing on the same team and hustling through life with your best friend (plus sex!). This means that there are highs, lows and phases of in-betweens; there is hot, there’s cold and lukewarm but in the end you’re still together.
In these lukewarm phases, it is normal to wonder if you ended up with the “one” and if maybe your relationship is more nay than yay.
To answer that question in your head, it is important that you know the signs of a healthy marriage.
12 Signs You Are in a Healthy Marriage
1. You Have Your Own Space
It is strange that space is the key to closeness because they seem so paradoxical but honestly it works! Just because you’re in love does not mean that your lives are bound together in a way that you spend every waking hour together. Growth happens when you cultivate hobbies, interests and friendships individually as well.
2. You Have Fights
Disagreeing means that you have things you stand for no matter what anyone else feels. It is healthy to put up your case fairly and in a respectful manner. The purpose of this is to come out of it knowing your partner better and not damaging or hurting the relationship by name-calling or putting him down. Also apologising when you’re wrong is important.
3. You Have the Same Core Values
This is super important to avoid feeling like you made a wrong decision later. A lot of people may find attraction but be wired differently in their core beliefs and values, causing relationships to die down after the initial phase is over.
4. You Learn to Let Some Things Go
Familiarity breeds contempt. This means that you will annoy each other. You will scream and fight, too. You will remember all the times he did or didn’t do something and it will build up. Talk about it, and let it go. The best relationships are the ones between two great forgivers.
5. You Actually Like Your Partner
Beyond the intimacy and the actual living together part of being married, it is important that you actually like your partner as a human being. Would you be friends with him if marriage hadn’t been your destiny? Would his qualities still be admirable? Do you have moments where you laugh together and enjoy each other?
6. You are Kind
Love is patient, love is kind. The Bible’s most overused verse in sappy rom-coms is actually a pretty good guideline for marriage if you think about it. If you find that you are treating people you barely know with more respect, care and kindness than your man, you need to ask yourself why this is happening. Your partner deserves the best of you.
7. You Want Each Other
Sex is important. Intimacy is more important! Intimacy is about companionship, bonding, little inside jokes, spooning, familiarity and basically all those warm fuzzy things about love that every human being needs. A healthy relationship is a mix of good times both in and out of the bedroom!
8. You Have No Secrets
Secrecy isn’t fair. If you feel the need to hide things from your partner, it is a sign that communication is weak between the two of you, that there is lack of respect for commitment or that you do not feel comfortable being yourself in the relationship. All these things are dangerous for your relationship and the sooner they are tackled the better. Which brings us to our next point.
9. You Speak Your Mind
Feeling like there’s no one to talk to or that your partner won’t understand what you need to say is one of the most lonely feelings ever. A good relationship is one where you and your partner are a team and can do anything to help the other feel better, including hearing them out. Similarly if you aren’t listening to your partner, now's a good time to begin!
10. There is Trust
We cannot stress how important trust is. Insecurity eats couples up and leads to bigger problems. Try and keep your relationship as open as stress-free as you can to avoid issues with trust as these ones take the longest to repair.
11. You Fill in For Each Other
Sometimes love is when you fill in for each other when the other cannot. This means if your hubby usually cooks and is busy with a stressful presentation, you gladly take over his duties. Basically, you always want to make life easier for the other.
12. Your Relationship is Your Happy Place
At the end of the day you want to come home to your partner and just unwind together. When life gets stressful, all you can do is wait to vent and have him comfort you or give you a solution or just listen. This is a big sign of a healthy relationship.
Remember, the dynamics of every relationship and love language are different but these basic signs will indicate which way your marriage is heading. Be the best version of yourselves and genuinely look out for each other because you are family and family comes first. Read more
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How to Teach Your Child to Apologize (Say Sorry) and Actually Mean It
Along with words like 'please' and 'thank you', the other important word your child must learn is 'sorry'. Learning to say sorry is a hard thing to teach as compared to the other two, because it's not easy to teach your child to swallow his ego and let go of his pride when saying it. Your child might also not feel that his actions were wrong or that it requires him to apologize. At times, it is difficult to ensure that children actually mean it even when they are not willing to say sorry.
Why is It Important for a Child to Learn to Apologise?
Apologising is not just a social gesture because it helps your kid in identifying his mistakes, taking responsibility for it, and healing the relationship. At times, your child might squeak a sorry just to make you feel better. In such cases, the child does not learn anything from it. It is important to teach your child that saying sorry is not just a simple standby solution. He should learn and understand how he has affected another person by misbehaving. It is easy to force or push your child to say the word 'sorry', but making him understand what he has done is far more critical.
Easy Ways to Teach Your Child to Say “Sorry”
For raising your kid to become responsible enough to apologise and accept his mistakes, practice these tips.
1. Teach Your Child When to Apologise
It is hard to make a small kid understand what is right and wrong. But it is important to start bringing these two concepts into their awareness as early as possible. You can begin by explaining the meaning of an apology and pointing out that apologies should be made when he makes a mistake. Encourage the kid to empathise so as to help him realise his wrongdoings, like asking him how he would react if another kid did something similar to him.
2. Show Your Child How to Apologise Correctly
Start teaching your kid the different components of apologising the right way, because a good apology is not just muttering the word under his breath.
Make eye contact
Stand up straight and still
You should encourage the kid to add words into his apology like telling the listener what he did wrong so the listener knows that your kid knows what he did.
Your child can also end the apology with a promise of doing better in the future.
To ensure that his mistake has been forgiven, your child can follow up with a question.
Teach your child to use the correct tone of voice when apologising. You can do this by saying 'I'm sorry' in different tones to help your child understand what sounds genuine and what doesn't.
3. Help Your Child Deal With His Emotions
When you talk to your child about what he did that requires an apology, there are chances that he might be defensive of his actions. In this case, take some time and ensure that he understands why you asked him to apologize and why he shouldn't feel embarrassed. Let him know that accepting one's mistake takes courage.
4. Be Neutral
It is never a good idea to fall into two extremities - you should neither be too defensive of your child’s actions, nor blame your child and support the other child. You will also be hearing a lot of “he did it” or “she started it”. Try and remain calm in such situations and explain to them that both of them have to apologise to each other. If your child feels bad afterwards, explain to him that conflict happens between two people and that both of them contribute to it. So even if it did not start because of your child, it is still important to apologise.
5. Let Your Child Apologise in His Own Way
Sometimes he may not want to apologise at the time. In such cases, it is better to give kids, especially the older ones, time to calm down and think about what they've done before apologising. He can also apologise in his own way, like giving a hug, or a flower, or even a note. It is more important that your child is willing to say sorry and that he understands his mistake.
6. Make Your Child Aware of The Consequences of Not Apologising
If your child repeatedly refuses to say sorry for what he did, talk to him about the consequences he has to face because of his behaviour. You could say that his friend might not talk to him again and will refuse to play with him.
7. Walk the Talk
Never forget that you should be a good role model for your kid. When you make a mistake, you should never refuse to say sorry to your kid. Your child will never understand the significance of 'sorry' if he never hears it in the house. So when it is necessary, apologise without getting very defensive about it.
8. Focus More on the Good Behaviour
Always remember that the more your child starts to differentiate the right from the wrong, the lesser he will have to apologise. Therefore, good behaviour should be focused on more than teaching him to apologise because when the child keeps repeating his mistakes, his apology becomes meaningless. So first prep your child to identify his wrongdoings and amend them. Eventually, he will learn to avoid making such mistakes.
9. Remember to Show Love
When your child does something wrong, never let him feel unloved. Forcing a child to apologise will only make him feel more shameful and angry. Therefore, the best thing you can do is to make your child understand his mistakes and help him figure out the solution.
This process can be hard at first, but your child will gradually start developing responsibility, and he will start understanding the consequences of his actions and behaviour. He will start developing empathy, and you will definitely end up being proud to have raised a polite kid.
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When It Comes to Our Child, Should We Follow Superstitions and Traditional Practices?
Since the advancement of science we have become more averse to superstitions. I absolutely agree that we should not be blinded by superstitions. However, there are some which seem to work and do not do any harm. When it comes to your child you want to do anything to make him/her feel better. Some of them are just good practice if you look at it.
Here are some practices I follow which might help you too
1. Do Not Touch Baby Directly After You Come from Outside
If someone comes to our house they have to either wash their hands or warm their hand in some kind of fire before touching the baby. This seems logical to me. In olden days there were no sanitisers hence there were asked to either touch water or fire to get their hands germ free
2. Do Not Leave Your Babies' Clothes to Dry Outside After Sun Down
This practice seems to be simple common sense as leaving clothes outside might lead to it getting touched by insects and dusts . baby's skin is extremely sensitive so even a little dust can irritate it. We should also be mindful of where we hang the clothes to dry. It should be a clean area free of dust and insects
3. Do Not Step or Mishandle Baby's Clothes
When it comes to babies all we want to do is shower love. Hence, taking proper care of his/her belonging is just showing love. I believe it also has a domino effect. If we take care of their belongings we automatically become more careful with anything that concerns our child. Moreover, it is basic hygiene.
4. Keeping Hanuman Chalisa Under Baby's Mattress
It is simply for peace of mind. It is just a reminder that God is there for our child.It does no harm and will keep evil spirits away. We do not know if there is any evil spirit but if there any, that too would be warded off ?
5. Placing a Broom Across the Door at Night
This is also done to prevent evil spirits from entering your home. I don't know if there is any science behind it, however, since I've done this my child seems less fussy. Maybe its just psychology but whatever works.
6. Putting "Kala Tika" or Tying Black Thread
This is one of the most common practices which doctors usually advice not to follow. I feel that if you are using a home made or natural kajal, just a dot on the forehead would not do any harm. I don't apply it on the eyes. Likewise, with thread I don't see any safety issues. However, that is something personal.
No matter how much I try, I cannot ignore these traditions. Maybe we are conditioned in that way. If its not a safety concern I am ok to follow it and somehow feel it has helped my child stay healthy and happy. I hope you also find these practices helpful in taking care of your little ones.
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Understanding Your Preschooler's Pencil Grasp Development
A good pencil grip helps improve handwriting and the fluidity of writing as well. But pencil grip activities for preschoolers must begin early as it becomes very difficult to change a child's handwriting after about the age of 6. It isn't impossible to change but needs patience.
The manner in which a child holds the pencil is one of the very first components of handwriting. There is a certain predictable pattern that most children follow from using their whole fist(fisted grasp) to holding a pencil using their thumb, index and third fingers(tripod grasp). It's important for parents and teachers to allow the child an opportunity to try different grasps as their muscles develop and encourage age-appropriate grasps. Poor pencil grasps make the child tire easily and unable to produce neat handwriting.
Understanding Different Stages of Pencil Grip Development
Types of Pencil Grasps in Children
1. Fisted Grip (1 to 1.5 years)
This is a “primitive” grasp and typically accompanies the “ scribbling” stage.The crayon or marker is held in the palm with the thumb on top in a slight forearm-up position.
2. Radial Cross Palmar Grip (2 - 3 years)
In this the hand is facing downwards towards the paper, with the pencil lying across the palm of their hand.
3. Static Tripod or Quadrupod Grasp (3 - 4 years)
By age 3 to 4 they will switch to a static tripod pencil grasp or quadruped grasp by using the correct fingers to hold a pencil(thumb, index and 3rd finger, but keeping the 3rd finger on top of the pencil). Also known as the modified tripod grasp.
4. Dynamic Tripod Grasp (4 - 6 years)
Between ages 4 – 6, a child’s tripod grasp will mature to a dynamic tripod grasp, when they use the tips of their fingers on the pencil and also hold it more at an angle than vertical.
The Best Pencil Grips for Handwriting in Children
For efficient pencil control, the dynamic pencil grasp is considered the best. The hand is positioned with an open web space(made by the thumb and index finger) that allows the fingers to move the pencil when writing. It's an efficient grasp for writing speed, control and letter formation. Pencil grasp development is dependent on how “steady” the shoulder and arm muscles are. It's important for children to develop a correct pencil grasp by going through appropriate developmental stages of various pencil grasps.
Natural Development of Grasps and Grips
Good pencil grips for preschoolers will come as the finger muscles develop and become more skilled. As the child develops physically and gets involved in various gross motor activities such as pushing, climbing and crawling, the arm and shoulder get stronger and steadier and this helps your child's pencil grasp to mature as well.
Not all kids develop at the same pace and hence don't force your child to hold a pencil with a tripod grip before he is developmentally ready to do so. It's not uncommon for a child to use lots of different grasps before he reaches the tripod grasp age. Changing pencil grasp patterns may take a little time and a lot of patience. Read more
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STRESS: Work on it before it hits you hard !
STRESS is a very common for everyone ,it’s there in everybody’s life.Its existence could be less or more ,low or high .
It’s starts from a negligible state and when it reaches at its peak we start to feel its effect in our day-to-day life in many form .
Stress could be really harmful for anyone and can lead you to a stage where you will forget what is right and what is wrong in short you will start being unfair for yourself and people around you.
I am writing this because I have faced this situation sometimes back when I literally lost my focus from everything and I felt that do I need to consult psychiatrist? But by God grace I didn’t reach to that point as I had people around me to support and urge me to do anything that would make me happy and distract me from the stress I had.
And
I realized that it was nothing but a phase which came in my life because of the
monotonous routine I have followed so far.
I was fortunate that when stressed hit me,my parents were at my place and I and my husband took the decision to leave our daughter with them for a day and spend our quality time together which we weren’t not able to do since the time our daughter came in our life.This was so missing from life and we realized it when we came back home with fresh mind.
So ,before it hits you hard and you reach at a point where there is no rollback please focus on the options and choices you can best make to release stress from your life .
Each one of us has only one life and have equal rights to enjoy it .No matter which roll you play and responsibilities you handle ,don’t forget that first we are human beings who enter into this world with a heart and mind which help them to live this life .And if they both stop reacting in normal way then it’s a very big problem and troublesome situation.
Soplease protect you heart and
preserve
your mind to live a happy life and keep on trying to find solution when you are at stressful and depressed
🅰🅳🆅🅸🅲🅴: Treat STRESS as your enemy and don’t let it enters in the territory of your body.
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Father of a 6 yr 4 m old child
13 hours ago
Q. my son is now 7 yrs and and last 3 three days ,he is complaining that he had bad and negative thoughts and this is too hilarious that.
we r too worried ,pls suggest 🙏
Dr Ghouse
Paediatrician
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A. it is quite natural small babies will be having different moods different types of behaviour please continue to interact the baby engage activities like drawing painting even clay sculpture o k
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Q. Hi this is pooja I am 6 weeks 3 days pregnant n m 31 yrs old my doctor prescribed me this interjection called choriotec 5000 once a week for a month .. I have already took two times but now my lil scared so can u pls tell me anyone here is it safe to take more ??? It’s not harmful nah ??? Pls ans dr
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A. Your doctor must have given it to you for a particular reason so I’m just going to advise you to follow what she says yet if you have a doubt or you’re scared about anything then why don’t you just prospect with your Dr as to what what purpose are you taking this and what is meant to be done in case you do not take the injection or you do not want to take
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Q. Mam last perioda mujhe 10 april ko aye the aur aj mene pregnancy test kiya hai to 1 line light ayi h to mujhe kya krna chahiye
Dr Ghouse
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7 hours ago
A. beta HCG test kare ok. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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Q. can I eat egg daily?
now I am in 1st trimester
Dr Ghouse
Paediatrician
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A. yes you can eat egg daily even in first trimester. if there is no relief it is better you see your doctor for proper examination particularly physical examination if there is need for doing investigations to find out the problem and treatment ok
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Which are the safe sites to hire japas in New Delhi (EDD July)
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A. you can always ask questions related to the health of child and mother in this section and it can bez either related to diet or food or vaccination or any type of medicine goingz on and given by your doctor.
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