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An Insight Into the Beautiful Bond Between a Mother and Daughter
The relationship between a mother and daughter is special. A mother's love for her daughter cannot be described in words. Some things are hard to say, but it can be felt. The bond between a mother and daughter is strong, and the mother-daughter bonding can start at an early age. However, sometimes, the relation between a mother and her daughter may get a little complicated.
On some days, you might go shopping with your daughter and have fun or just sit with her at home and listen to her when she tells you about her big dreams and future plans, but there will also be days when your daughter would not listen to you or disobey you. At that time, you might feel that your relationship is falling apart, but deep down you'd know that your daughter loves you. Yes, in her teenage years she might behave a little strange, but she will come around. And it is during these years that you will have to work hard on your relationship.
Why is a Mother-Daughter Relationship Important?
The relationship that a girl shares with her mother can affect her sense of self-esteem, self-worth, sense of identity, and her ability to make friends. Children who are encouraged and praised (healthy praise, of course!) by their parents grow up to be confident individuals. If a child is not appreciated by her parents, she may seek validation from others.
When a girl is in her teenage years, she usually looks up to her mother. Her mother is her role model and she wishes to be like her. She gets her perfect image of a woman from her mother. But the relationship between a mother and daughter can go through many ups and downs. Many things can derail the harmonious relationship between a mother and her daughter. Temperaments, personality, experiences, hormones can all affect their relationship. Whatever may be the cause, it can be worked upon.
How to Build and Maintain a Strong Bond with Your Daughter
Here are some ways to help you improve your bond with your daughter:
1. When She is a Little Girl
It is important to forge a strong connection from the very start, i.e., soon after the birth of your daughter. Some things to keep in mind are as follows:
Breastfeed Your Daughter
By breastfeeding your little angel, you can develop a strong bond with her. The release of oxytocin hormone (the love hormone) during breastfeeding makes the mother fall in love with her baby even more, and this only helps in improving the bond between mother and daughter. Breastfeed your daughter in the first six months of her life. You can also enlist the help of a trained nurse to assist you with the task. Also, hold and cuddle your baby as much as possible to make her feel loved, comfortable, and safe. If you are unable to breastfeed your baby for some reason, try to maintain skin contact with her. Skin-to-skin contact between the mother and her child also strengthens the bond between the two.
Set a Routine
Spend some time with your daughter daily. Plan special weekend trips or getaways with your daughter. This will strengthen your bond. You can play dress up with your daughter, comb her hair, or brush her tooth while she is young - all these activities will bring you two closer. In case your daughter tries to imitate you, let her. Take it as an opportunity to model good behaviour. Also, encourage her to love her imperfections and try to find good in the negative things.
Express Your Affection Openly
Express your affection to her openly. If your daughter does something good, let her know that you are proud of her. This shows how much you love her. Nurture your bond with your daughter by sharing hugs, cuddles, and kisses. For example, you can incorporate extensive cuddle time during bedtime. These physical acts of love may teach your daughter to freely demonstrate and accept affection.
Share Your Experiences
The greatest gift you can give your daughter while she is young is your time. Take out time from your schedule to focus and spend some time with her to let her know that you value her as an individual. Make her feel special by sharing your joys and sorrows with her. Also, involve her in household chores from an early age to develop a sense of responsibility in her.
2. When She is a Teenager/Adult
When a girl is in her teenage years, it can be a difficult time for her. A daughter needs her mother the most in her teenage years and also when she gets married. Here is what you will need to remember when your daughter becomes a teenager:
Be There for Her
Adolescence can be a difficult phase for your girl because, at that time, she will try to find her identity and will struggle to cope up with the various physical and emotional changes she will go through. Make sure you provide her necessary guidance and support, and hear her out. Do offer her advice, but don't command her as she might become rebellious. Just listen to her concerns and try to channelise her stress or anger positively.
Respect Her Feelings
Honour your daughter’s boundaries. As much as you may prefer to be with her, if she desires some 'alone time', give that to her. On some days, you might make mistakes too. Be a bigger person and own up to your mistakes. Simply apologise and make amends. Respect her individuality and allow her to explore her inner worth and interests without inhibition.
Talk to Her Freely
Talk to your daughter about various worldly issues. You can share your pearls of wisdom while going shopping with her or while cooking meals. As a teenager, she may feel insecure about her body. Help her accept and be proud of her body. Talk to her about relationships, character traits like faith, integrity, perseverance, and courage. Let her know that these are the values she will need the most in her life. Empower and equip her with all your wisdom and life experiences.
Keep Realistic Expectations
As parents, it is normal to have certain expectations from children. But it is important to be reasonable. Remember your daughter is a separate individual who may have her dreams and aspirations. Give her space to grow and blossom by giving ample support and love.
It is a mother who educates her daughters about different things. It is a mother who teaches her daughter how to handle and carry herself in this world and how to deal with different sets of people and sail through various walks of life. A mother is the first friend of her daughter, who guides her throughout lives. If you have a daughter, make sure you be there for her always and support her in all walks of life.
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Inducing Labour with Membrane (Cervical) Sweep
As your delivery due date is nearing, your anxiousness and excitement are increasing. You can expect your labour pain anytime. Typically, after the completion of 40 weeks, pregnant women experience labour pains. But, in some cases, contractions are not experienced even after the due date. In such scenarios, a manual procedure is done to induce contractions. A membrane sweep is the first and the most basic procedure that is done by doctors, nurses, or midwives to stimulate labour pains.
What Is A Membrane Sweep?
A membrane sweep or cervical sweep is a manual process used to stimulate the cervix. The doctor or midwife will insert a gloved finger, feel the cervix of a full-term pregnant woman, and gently but firmly move the finger around. This sweeping of the thin membranes of the amniotic sac is also called stripping the membrane. Sweeping the membrane separates the sac from the cervix and helps in releasing prostaglandins (hormones which might induce labour pains). Membrane stripping is also referred to as the 'stretch and sweep' process because if sweeping is not required, stretching of the cervix is done to manually stimulate the cervix.
How Is It Done?
The pregnant woman is asked to lie down in a position wherein the feet are together and the knees are on either side (the lithotomy position). When the woman is comfortable, the doctor inserts a finger (which is gloved) into the vagina. By feeling the cervix, the doctor gently sweeps inside the cervical region. As discussed earlier, this sweep and stretch process separates the amniotic sac from the cervix and aids in the release of the prostaglandins hormones. The release of these hormones induces pains and leads to labour and childbirth. Membrane stripping procedure is a basic and commonly used method because it does not include any medication.
Is Membrane Stripping Safe?
Studies indicate that membrane stripping does not have any major risks and is considered safe. According to a study published in the Journal of Clinical Gynecology & Obstetrics:
There were no negative side effects due to membrane stripping.
Women who have membrane stripping done are not likely to experience complications during labour.
Is Membrane Sweeping Effective?
Expert researchers find it difficult to conclude whether membrane sweeping is effective or not. Various studies have been conducted to analyse the effectiveness of membrane sweeping. One such review concluded that the effectiveness depends on the gestational period, when the procedure is done, and also whether the women have used other methods to induce labour.
For pregnant women who have overshot their due date, this procedure can be very effective. It was also found that women who have had the procedure done went on to experience labour pains and delivered soon. However, it is important to note that membrane sweeping might not be as effective as other methods or procedures where medications are used. So, membrane stripping can be considered to be an effective option in scenarios when there is no urgent medical reason to induce labour pains using medications.
When Is It Offered?
Extension of pregnancy might affect the health of the baby and the mother. After forty-two weeks, your placenta might not be in a good position to supply adequate oxygen and food to the baby, thus endangering or affecting the baby's growth. So, your doctor might suggest a membrane stripping in the following cases:
You have crossed the due date and still haven’t experienced labour pangs. Ideally, it would be after completing your 40th week in pregnancy.
Typically, for first-time mothers, if the labour doesn’t start in the 41st week, a membrane sweep becomes necessary.
For women who have already delivered earlier, doctors advise a membrane sweep if the labour pain doesn’t come up even after 42 weeks.
There is an emergency, and the baby must be delivered soon.
When Should You Avoid It?
Doctors avoid doing a membrane sweeping in the following cases:
If the pregnant woman is bleeding.
If women have a B-strep infection, membrane stripping can worsen the existing situation.
If the woman cannot go for a vaginal delivery due to a medical complication.
Membrane Stripping Risks
Membrane stripping has some risks such as rupturing the amniotic sac thereby exposing the baby to possible infections. You might also experience some cramping 24 hours after stripping which can disturb your sleep before going into labour.
Pros
Following are some of the advantages of membrane stripping:
It is a natural procedure and does not involve any medicines.
It reduces the chances of C-section by inducing labour.
The procedure is quite simple and can be done by a midwife too.
Usually, there is not much intervention required after a membrane sweep procedure.
Cons
Following are some of the disadvantages of membrane stripping:
It is not always effective and might require sweeping a couple of times to induce labour.
It should not be done if vaginal birth is not advised by the doctor.
It is uncomfortable as the cervix might be located deep inside and may not be reachable.
There are possibilities that the water bag might break during the procedure, thereby exposing the baby to infections.
Is It Painful?
Membrane sweeping is not painful, but it is definitely uncomfortable. The procedure lasts for only 5 to 10 minutes and can become easier with relaxation techniques and breathing exercises. If you are not fully convinced about the procedure, you can choose other methods to induce labour pain.
What Happens After Cervical Swab?
Cervical sweep or cervical swab is not a pleasant experience and might be uncomfortable. The cervix has a lot of blood vessels, so you might feel sore or experience some bleeding after the procedure. In case of heavy bleeding, do contact you doctor and ensure that you go to the hospital immediately.
Some Important Facts Associated with Membrane Sweep
Following are some important facts regarding membrane stripping:
Restlessness
Stripping of membrane can cause restlessness in some women. It is advised that you take a lot of rest after membrane stripping as you might be anxious about being overdue.
Discomfort
Some discomfort can be felt after membrane stripping as the cervix is difficult to reach in full-term pregnancies. It could also be painful in some cases. You can do some basic breathing exercises to relax yourself during the procedure. Some women experience mild spotting and irregular contractions after the procedure.
Going past your due date
It is quite unusual for women to go past 42 weeks of pregnancy. Normally, 41 weeks is the maximum time limit for a normal delivery, but 3 in every 100 women go past 41 weeks. In this case, the doctor will try membrane stripping to induce labour naturally.
In many cases, labour pains occur on or before the due date. However, in cases where it is delayed and doctors think that labour must be induced, then membrane sweeping is the most common procedure that is done. Although it might sound uncomfortable and can frighten you, you can always talk to your doctor and decide on what's the most suitable option for you and the baby. Remember that extending your pregnancy can be risky, so it's always best to consult an expert medical practitioner and follow his/her advice. Read more
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ABCs of potty training- A guide to stress-free life!!
Get it right- life can be quite easy but get it wrong, it's Messy!!
First of all –
yes, new moms or ‘to be moms’ readers… There is a thing called potty training –
get it right, and your life can by quite easy but get it wrong, it’s MESSY!!!Every mom has a
dilemma of how and by when she should start potty and toilet training of her
kid.There is no
thumb rule for this as every kid is different. But I want to share few ideas
which might help new moms about how to go for potty training.Every new mom
is scared and feels gross of the idea of cleaning the kid and changing diapers
all the time. I give the credit to my mom’s advice that helped me in completing
the potty training of my kid when he completed 1 year. I have never kept my kid
ever in diaper except when going out and in night.So as soon as
my kiddo started sitting (which was v early luckily: 4.5 months old), I bought
a small potty sheet of Fisher Price. It has some train music coming out of it.
So he was very fascinated about the music and the bright color of it. Whenever
I feel that my kid wants to poop, I made him sit over it, waited patiently,
talked to him, sing poems to him. In the beginning he was not comfortable as he
obviously didn’t know what to do after sitting on it. But if you make this a
daily habit, the kid will soon realize the use of potty seat. Sometimes it was
a fake call too, but I did this every time he signals to poop.After sometime,
when he started to crawl and make me understand things, he himself crawls to
the potty seat to let me know he wants to poop. Soon by 11 months he was fully
potty trained.Few key
takeaways from my experience which can be useful for everyone:
You really need to understand the
signs of kid from starting when they want to poop and do toilet. As you
give importance to their signs (which can be any sound or distress face),
they soon will recognize how they can relate the urge of doing with the
signs and will help them in signaling you as they grow.
Be patient – as with everything
else to do with the kids. You really need to sit patiently with the kid on
potty seat, make them comfortable, tell them the use of it, sing poems to
comfort them.
I used to take the potty seat out
of bathroom every time as he doesn’t like enclosed space of bathroom while
pooping. Also it helps me in sitting comfortably while I have to wait.
Try to buy an interesting potty
seat which has some sound, colors or cartoon on it and which has small
size for sitting as if you want to start very early, there are few potty
seats available in market with small area to sit. They will not feel
comfortable if it is very wide and they feel the risk of falling into it –
so buying a good and correct fit seat is critical.
Potty training should start as
early as possible when you feel your kid is ready to understand you. Since
the learning capacity of kid is very high in starting and as they grow
they get stubborn and resist change and they have all types of
distractions in their mind in later stage. BUT never force or put pressure
on them if they are not ready. Try after few days, they might accept it.
But never get disheartened and stop practicing it. The sooner you teach
them, the faster they learn.
Never feel gross of the term potty
while cleaning them. Make them understand why doing potty is good for
them.
Always make them wash their hands
after they are cleaned. This will help them in continuing with this habit
as they grow.
Toilet trainingI have also
been training him for toilet from starting. I used to take him to bathroom for
toilet every hour or depending his schedule as soon as he wakes up from his
sleep and as he signals he wanted to do toilet.Soon he gets
the habit of signaling me when he wanted to do toilet. The important thing
again I learnt is never ever ignore baby signals. This will really help them in
informing you as they grow. Even if the kid is wearing diaper and if they tell
you that he wants to do toilet, take him to bathroom (if its available) to do
it. Never ignore and tell them to do it in diaper.Night trainingMy kiddo has
started telling me that he wants to go to toilet when he was 9 months old. On
his first birthday, he was fully potty and toilet trained except in night. I
felt it too early to start night training so I waited for 4-5 months.Night training
was again a tricky task as I have to wake up in night so many times to check
him if he is wet and couldn’t feel to tell me. And also the clothes and bed is
going to get messy – so better get some mattress cover before you start this.
His sleep is going to be disturbed in night and he’ll be cranky in day. So you
really have to be patient for those months.I used to make
him do toilet before sleeping and talk to him in bed that he needs to tell me
in night if he wants to do toilet. Don’t make the kids drink more liquid stuff
like milk/water just before sleeping while starting this process.After every 2
hours I used to check him if he is wet and ask softly in his sleep if he wants
to do. He sometimes replied, sometimes not. Many times he found wet so I have
to change his clothes in night. I didn’t put dry sheets below him as I don’t
want him to feel conscious / differently from us before sleeping. After few
days or a month he started telling me in sleep that he wanted to do toilet, but
he used to speak in such a low volume I have to be fairly vigilant full night.
After 2-3 months, he was fully trained. We stopped using diapers while going
out too but we have to remind him so many times that you are not wearing diaper
and you have to inform us if you want to go to toilet.When he started
going to play school, and I have to again make him wear diaper during school
time as he might not tell to strangers and don’t want him to feel uncomfortable
in school before he settles down over there. But after few days, he disliked
the idea of wearing diaper and I could proudly say that my efforts did not go
in vein and those diapers have gone from his life when he turned 2.This is my
experience of the efforts I put in my kids potty training. Hope you guys find
some of the points worthy to apply. Pls comment if you like it and share your
experience as well.Enjoy Parenting
Unplugged!!Prachi!
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Marital implications of Autism- a peek into special needs co-parenting and companionship trivia.
Marital implications of Autism and impqct of raising children with special needs are profound as much as we'd like to brush our concerns under the covers.
The author , Dr Shruti Gupta is a Consultant Radiologist but has a keen interest in advocating the cause of Autism and all the multiple aspects of special needs parenting through the power of the pen.
To begin with acceptance of the diagnosis of Autism lays heavy on ones psychological well being. The couple dynamics takes a new turn as we realize we're in a soup- no one has an idea how the soup got cooked and who is to blame! It's always easier to de- stress and redirect our woes when we understand the logic as to why life gave us these lemons .
The second part is that what's at stake here is not just a material thing- but the centrestage of our expectations and social framework- our child. Every parent holds a zillion dreams for their offspring and all that comes to a crashing halt momentarily until one can crack the ASD code.
Pent up emotions with a over burdened finances of relentless long term therapies , social isolation and anxiety all lead to emptiness and nervous breakdown. Vacations come at a price tag and are added stresses with an unpredictable child - so one chooses to evade them.
Some couples bond over the crisis and come out shining where as some reach a point of feeling disconnected in this journey.
Responsibility sharing is another important component where one has to understand that parental burnout is for real. Sharing responsibility can work wonders instead of expecting one parent to take up all the charge .
The vicious cycle of emptiness takes another turn when you have to deal with a spouse that can't accept ,move on and gear up to traverse the journey . When we need to battle for basic needs like therapy, time for one on one interaction with the kid , responsibility sharing ; it becomes toxic beyond a certain point.
Companionship can be a wonderful healing tool if used wisely along with being a caregiver to your special needs child.
Often, the burden of everyday challenges and no time for expression of love and affection creates a cold zone that escalates unknowingly to a point of no return for some .
With the right mindset and respect for your partner, one can make teamwork happen wonderfully. Embrace the journey of life designated to you. Take a break from the mundane routine and take out time to communicate. Compromise can be the spice of life when done mutually like a silent duel of understanding.
If things don't work out, always remember nothing is the end of the world. You are stronger than you believe- you can sail through anything.
Someone rightly said "there is a certain power in having nothing left to lose"
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MD
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A. Saint Line usually means positive only but for further more if you want to go ahead with a clarity on that then you can get a beta HCG on an ultrasound with your doctor because one line is usually visible and second is faint right so it is positive
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Mera pregnancy ka 9th month 1 hfte me complete ho jaega jb se 9th month start hua hai mujhe 2 bar labour pain jaisa pain feel hua but wo kuch hi time baad shi ho gya. iss condition me kya mujhe kya krna chahiye?
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Q. Mera pregnancy ka 9th month 1 hfte me complete ho rha hai lekin 9th month start hote hi abhi tk 2 bar labour pain jaisa feel hua hai but wo kuch time baad khud hi theek ho jata hai aisi condition me mujhe kya krna chahiye?
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